Author: David Crist

The Top Environmental Problem

The Top Environmental Problem

The top environmental problems, are not biodiversity loss, ecosystem collapse or climate change. They are selfishness, greed, and apathy, coupled with an amoral economic system, a system that rewards short term profits for multinational corporations, at the expense and detriment, to the very customers they serve.

Only Interested in Net Profit

The worlds economies are only interested in net income for their shareholders. Tired slogans like Made in America or Working Together for a Green World, only hide their true purpose, to produce maximal profit.

The Most Important Product

Profit is the most important product of every corporation. Polluting the environment, destruction of forests, poisoning our water, scarring our mountains and fouling our atmosphere, all result from the single minded pursuit of profit.

Manipulation

Businesses only present a social sensitivity as a manipulation of the public, to mask their true objective, to maximize profit.. Quality of service and product excellence have no importance other then to increase net profit. Employees also have no value, apart from increasing net profit.

The Coming Horizon Catastrophe

To avoid the coming horizon catastrophe we need a cultural and spiritual transformation. Human history both individual and collective, has chronicled how the pursuit of external power as opposed to authentic power has had dire consequences.

The Challenge

Our challenge is to change commerce from the collective mindset, that strives for external power (profit), to a dynamic mindset. A mindset that focuses on authentic power (spiritual). Finally coming to the  realization, that the true purpose of a societies economy, is to serve the evolution of humans and support life on earth.

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As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

 

Alcoholism is a Mental Illness

Thinking caused the Drinking

Ever wonder why your alcoholic? Well it’s our stinking thinking that leads to our drinking. And until we understand our thinking, we will continue to drink. To understand our thinking, we must focus on the behavior and walk it back. All external events go through a mental filter of beliefs, values, and memories, before reaching our inner perception of ourselves, (our story), and based on our emotional state at the time of the event, a response will be arrived at. The more we respond to opinions and feelings, the more dis-empowering the beliefs we hold. Beliefs we might not even realize we have. All beliefs are limited by nature, we don’t know what we don’t know.

Addiction is only a Symptom

Addiction is very complex and goes far beyond a Self Will run riot. For many it’s feelings of inferiority and low self esteem, that are behind the addiction. It’s by focusing on the feelings that cause the irritability and discontent, that recovery can be found. It’s my contention that beneath every addiction lies a mental illness, It’s called Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

 Thinking is the Problem

You can not even begin to deal with a disease until you can identify it, by it’s proper name. Treatment begins with a diagnosis, AA’s problem is it only focuses on a symptom of the disease. We must look beyond the limited views of AA, to see the true cause, of our suffering.. We are responsible for the beliefs we hold. We must focus on the beliefs that make us feel so unworthy, depressed and angry, searching for relief. As long as we continue to look outside ourselves, we cannot heal.

Quality of Sobriety

When first I started attending AA, I was told I had a disease called  Alcoholism, both chronic and  progressive, mental illness was never mentioned. While focusing on sobriety provided relief initially, it also prevented me from confronting my real problem, my thinking. After sitting through thousands of meetings, listening to people struggle with their ongoing issues and personal problems, it started to become evident to me that the problems I had, were much deeper then just the drinking, and that they wouldn’t go away simply because I stopped drinking.

Focused on Character Defects

The focus on abstention, character defects, and shortcomings kept me from recognizing and working on my dis-empowering beliefs. Beliefs adopted  unknowingly as a child, which I continued to hold, and re-enforce, even though I had stopped drinking. For years in recovery, I was convinced that my perceptions where reality.

Actions Don’t Change Beliefs

I bought into the fallacy, that good actions led to good thinking, and that’s simply not true. It was my beliefs and the power I gave them that was causing my problems. I could act good for years but if I still believed, deep inside, that I was inherently bad, then I was just whistling in the dark. These beliefs would keep bringing into my life, situations where I would feel I was bad. For years  I had no concept of cause and effect.

The Bondage of Self

We drink to help us forget, even for a little while, this feeling, of
irritability and discontent. We are Narcissistic, always thinking about
me, me, me. We believe that the world revolves around us, this creates
an endless need to be accepted and cared for by others. In more severe
cases it can cause us to feel that we are not lovable or valuable and
that we don’t really belong. We don’t feel safe being our authentic
self, so we create a false self, and the fear of this false self being
found out, leads to more and more elaborate lies and myth building about
who we really are, and more drinking.

Cause and Effect

We judge because we are angry. We are angry because we are afraid. We
are afraid because sub-consciously we fear we aren’t enough. We
complain, because sub-consciously we believe that complaining helps
solve problems. We criticize because sub-consciously we believe it makes
us feel better about ourselves. We are impatient because
sub-consciously we believe that being impatient resolves issues quicker.
Our dis-empowering beliefs are the cause, an unmanageable life is the
effect. We are irritable and discontent because of this feeling of
unmanageability and we seek relief, most commonly in drugs and alcohol.

Addiction is an Allergy

We drank for relief, it slowly becomes a habit. Slowly we prefer being intoxicated as opposed to sober. We eventually lose the ability to tell the difference between sobriety and intoxication. We develop an allergy of mind and body, once we start drinking we can’t stop. As we work harder to sustain the myth that we are OK, we become neurotic about being found out. This neurosis further helps establish the dis-empowering beliefs systems with regard to how we interact with the world. So in addition to being a critical, impatient, complainer, we now become arrogant, bossy, and aggressive. We know the innate truth but we lie, to ourselves and others. The drinking obscures the real problem.

Bondage of Self

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is one of a group of conditions known as dramatic personality disorders. All Narcissists have unstable and intense emotions and a distorted self-image of themselves. Trapped in the bondage of self, we have an excessive sense of importance and superiority, and a preoccupation with success and power, this can also indicate a lack of self-confidence. NPD often involves a deep sense of insecurity and a lack of self-esteem, coupled with a feeling of victimization. Some even exhibit unstable and intense emotions when their self-image is challenged.

NPD is the Root Cause of All Addictions

A study carried out by the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, published in the Journal of Clinical Psychiatry, found that 7.7 percent of all men and 4.8 percent of all women develop Alcoholism during their lives. I think the number is much higher, and it directly correlates with the percentage of addictions in the general population. I believe that NPD is the root cause for all addictions. One of the central defects of a Narcissist is there inability to acknowledge it. With over thirty years experience in AA, I’ve never meet an alcoholic who wasn’t a Narcissist.

Causes

It is unclear what causes NPD. It may be associated with
circumstances during childhood, such as very high parental expectations,
over-pampering, neglect, or abuse. An individual may have learned
manipulative behaviors from their parents or household members Whenever there is a major deficit in parental love, the child will in all likelihood, respond to that deficit by assuming itself to be the cause of the deficit, they develop an unrealistic negative self image, this may undermine their ability to tune into other people’s feelings and needs. The NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital points to recent evidence that a genetic predisposition and other biological or biochemical factors may also be linked to NPD.

Untreated NPD

A person with untreated NPD has a greater chance of abusing drugs and alcohol, and of having depression, relationship problems, difficulties at work or school, and suicidal behaviors or thoughts. A study published in PLoS One found that males with NPD have higher levels of cortisol in their blood. Cortisol is a stress hormone. A person with NPD may have higher levels even when stress levels are low. High blood cortisol is linked to a greater risk of developing cardiovascular problems.

Living with somebody who has NPD

Living with someone who has NPD can be challenging. Family members have described their loved one as:

  • controlling
  • egotistical
  • frequently dissatisfied with the actions of others
  • prone to blaming others and making them feel guilty for all their problems
  • losing their temper at the slightest provocation
  • turning their back and giving people the “silent treatment”
  • being physically and sexually abusive

Traits

Below are the most common traits found in people with NPD:

  • An insatiable appetite for the attention of others
  • Extreme feelings of jealousy
  • An expectation of special treatment
  • Exaggerating achievements, talents, and importance
  • Extreme sensitivity and a tendency to be easily hurt and to feel rejected with little provocation
  • Difficulty maintaining healthful relationships
  • Fantasizing about their own intelligence, success, power, and appearance
  • An ability to take advantage of others to achieve a goal, without regret or conscience
  • A lack empathy, or ability to understand and share the feelings of others, and a tendency to disregard others’ feelings
  • A belief that only certain people can understand their uniqueness
  • A tendency to consider themselves as skilled in romance
  • Responding to criticism with denial, anger, humiliation, and shame
  • Seeking out praise and positive reinforcement from others
  • An expectation that others will agree with them and go along with what they want
  • Whatever they crave or yearn for must be “the best”

Other Traits

Many see narcissists as selfish, though they never see this themselves. They may describe the person as self-obsessed, arrogant, tough-minded, and lacking emotion. As we live with dis-empowering beliefs, we continue to dishonor and lie to ourselves. Our unexpressed fear grows. As this fear grows, it turns to anger, eventually it explodes, usually over minor things, we either lash out, hurting our loved ones,.or we implode, getting angry with ourselves, which causes depression. We lie in order to belong. We pretend, to be different from who we actually are, to fit in, belong, to feel safe, to survive, it’s all a lie. People talk about being honest, and we see them lie all the time.

Dishonesty

We learn denial, the ability to distract ourselves and shut down what
we need and want. We deny what we observe or know to be true with
others. We create fantasies of how we wish things could be, at the same
time making excuses, to do nothing that would change the situation. The
more we deny the less we heal, the more we lie to ourselves, the further
we get from our true selves. Honesty becomes our biggest challenge.

Diagnosis

No specific lab tests exist that can diagnose NPD, but X-rays and blood tests may help rule out other conditions that may be causing the symptoms. There are several types of personality disorders, some of them overlap, and it is possible to be diagnosed with more than one type. Most people coming into AA don’t realize they are suffering from the progressive disease of Alcoholism, in addition to having a mental illness. The most significant reason Medicine knows so little about the Narcissist is because they are extremely reluctant to be studied. Narcissists are master manipulators, and we deny even the most obvious symptoms, from ourselves and others.

An NPD diagnosis must follow the criteria written in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), published by the APA (American Psychiatric Association). While the following must be present for a diagnosis of NPD to be made.

All Alcoholics display some if not all these symptoms.

  • The patient’s idea and importance of self is exaggerated.
  • Fantasies about beauty, success, and power dominate the individual’s thoughts.
  • The person thinks they are special, and relate only to other “special” people.
  • They need to be admired all the time.
  • They believe they are entitled to most things.
  • They manipulate and take advantage of others.
  • They lack empathy, the ability to feel and recognize the feelings and needs of others.
  • They envy other people.
  • Their behavior appears haughty or arrogant.

Treatment

Traditionally, addiction was considered to be a moral failing and a question of choice on the part of the drinker. Treatment was in line with that school of thought and included, imprisonment, sentencing to a mental asylum, or religious based intervention involving prayer. Two years after the failure of Prohibition, AA was founded by Bill W. and Dr. Bob, it was based on 12-Steps, a series of principles that used spiritual and moral laws,which when followed offed addicts mental, emotional, and societal rehabilitation. Due primarily to the efforts of Marty Mann (one of the first women to complete the 12-Step program), the National Committee for Education on Alcoholism was formed. They advocated radical notions about alcoholism and alcoholics..

Recovery becomes Big Business

In 1956 the American Medical Association declared Alcoholism as an illness, and the modern treatment centers where born. The ability to charge insurance companies for treatment has seen an explosion of the treatment center Industry. Some of which incorporate the latest theories in Psychotherapy and Neural Linguistics Programming and Aftercare Modalities, some who just offer a high priced 12-Step program. For profit treatment centers have led to many abuses in the name of recovery. (hence the joke that a big book can cost $30,000).

It has to be Your Idea

It is my contention that the reason for the continued poor recovery rates in traditional 12-Step programs, is due to a number of issues. The first being that it’s rarely the addicts idea to attend AA or any other 12-Step program, it’s usually the Law, our your family, that push you into recovery. In 1989, America’s first drug courts began sentencing“nonviolent drug offenders” to 12-step programs, in the effort to reduce drunk driving nationwide, it was also seen as an affordable alternative,to medical treatment.  A majority of people attending AA for the first time, don’t want to be there.

Unwilling to Change.

Secondly, AA still focuses primarily on the symptoms of (addiction), and not the causes, the grave psychological problems that underlie them. According to Dr. Lance Dodes, in his book The Sober Truth: Debunking the Bad Science Behind 12-Step Programs and the Rehab Industry (co-written with Zachary Dodes),” when the Big Book was first published in 1939, it was met with wide skepticism in the medical community. The AMA called it a curious combination of organizing propaganda and religious exhortation. A year later, the Journal of Nervous and Mental Diseases described it as a rambling sort of camp-meeting confession of experiences … Of the inner meaning of alcoholism there is hardly a word. It is all surface material.” To think that a lasting recovery can be achieved by going to nightly meetings with a group of similarly afflicted individuals, and a set of 12 non-medical guidelines for recovery, half of which require direct appeals to God.is to ignore the last 90 years of Medical and Psychological advances. Simply being open to the mental illness aspect of addiction would improve recovery rates.

To quote Charlotte Kasl, “While the emergence of 12-Step programs and Alcoholics Anonymous where highly significant occasions that did at one time shed new light on alcoholism, without substantial updating this institution falls into the category of Vaclav Havel’s words, “It no longer provides new, spontaneous, and effective evidence of things hitherto only guessed at.” The 12-Step approach purports to be for all people, but it’s literature lacks knowledge of most people.”

How To Improve 12-Step Programs

Combining Psychotherapy, and Neural Linguistic Programming techniques with traditional 12-Step programs would help individuals come to understand what causes their problems and help them learn how to relate more positively to others. This simple change would result in more constructive discussion about what lies beneath the addiction. How beliefs are the cause and behavior the effect. Using modern techniques, they could more quickly help a person build up their self-esteem and acquire realistic expectations of themselves and others. Even combining Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), with traditional 12-Step group therapy would be an improvement. CBT helps the patient identify negative beliefs and behaviors, in order to replace them with healthful, positive ones. Medication may help with some of the more distressing aspects of NPD

Recovery

Recovery can still follow the 12-steps format, with guidance by those who have found recovery, from this seemingly hopeless state of mind and body. .Basic Psychotherapy and Neural-Linguistic Programming techniques should be incorporated in the program or at least utilized by those who have recovered. This would be useful in helping people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder relate to others in a healthier and more compassionate way.

In Conclusion

Acting and doing good, only acted as a displacement mechanism. It only shifted my attention and did not reach, the deep held beliefs, that I held. That not only was I not good enough or smart enough, but I was not deserving enough, to be truly happy. As long as I held on to these beliefs, real recovery would be out of reach, and that the best I could hope for, would be a stalemate between me and my addictions, doomed to forever be in recovery, but never recovered. Lucky for me I had a psychic change, sufficient to change these deep-seated beliefs. To know God’s will, and the power to carry it out. I want to share my thirty years of experience, in order that you might find true recovery, a lot faster than I did.

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

 

 

 

 

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It’s An Epiphany!

Why It Happens

You’ve had an epiphany, you feel a need to create, to contribute, you don’t know if it’s spiritual or intellectual, you just know it is. An epiphany like this usually follows a few basic patterns. It usually happens after losing something you cherish, either a job, a marriage, or a loved one. In these cases your old life dies and a new life awakens.

For Others

For others, it’s realizing that we can either live an inactive, nonproductive life in retirement, or a rewarding fulfilling life by passing on the essence of our knowledge to future generations. The knowledge can be as varied as the people who are called. But many feel it’s a calling or a project that they simply must pursue.

It May Appear Illogical

To some it may appear illogical and make no financial sense, and for others, it’s a way to resolve an economic problem, if they can figure out how to give these activities social value. Either way they have to learn how to do it, and they start searching. They rely on a mystical common sense that is essentially a combination of patience, courage, and faith and miraculously they find what they are searching for at Wealthy Affiliates.

No Up Sell

At Wealthy Affiliates they find a community of like-minded individuals that want to help you find your highest potential. Their objective is not to constantly up sell you in more and more expensive offerings, but to create an environment that is conducive to learning.

It Takes a Village

WA understands that everyone can realize their creative nature, if giving the tools and support. Their step by step approach to teaching internet marketing, allows you to move at your own speed, while belonging to a community of people, interested in not only learning themselves, but in supporting and helping you, the community, grow as a whole. The concept that “it takes a village” is truly what WA believes in. This unique synergistic approach, proves that the whole is greater than its individual parts, and being a part of this community allows you to experience the future of e-learning today.

You Are Not Alone

Joining others that have the same goals, provides the motivation, energy and support, we all need. It’s a basic truth that we all have a tremendous need for other people, to belong. The knowledge that we are not alone, is the most crucial thing that can be brought to any of us. It’s this unique synergistic approach to learning and belonging that will become the norm in the future. WA provides the tools and support that can change your life today, and guarantee your success in the future, if your willing to do the work. Check it out for free

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

The Self

Thoughts are like clouds. Floating by in the space of our Minds. They arise, stay a bit and pass.

Who are you? I am me, or am I? We are all the same.

Look inward to find yourself, look past the illusions of Self. The wounded child, the cynical and bitter skeptic, the controller, the seeker, the coward which lets fear make to many of our choices. The wise man and the fool, both these you can see, but who is the seer? All these illusions, can be seen, felt and described, but who is the subject, the actual Self, the actual seer of those illusions.

Anything you think you can see or know about yourself, is not your true Self. Your true Self is the Witness. It witnesses all that is occurring, but cannot itself be turned into an object, or a subject, it cannot be objectified. The true Self is a deep mystery, something that can’t be seen, yet sees the entire Universe.

The Witness doesn’t move, it isn’t touched by time or motion. It’s aware of time, but is timeless, existing in the Now. The only thing the Witness is aware of, the only thing that is real, is an endless Present, a single Now moment, through which Time passes, but it is not touched by Time at all, but lives in Eternity.

The closer you get to your true Self, the more you live in Eternity, the more you live in the timeless Present, which includes thoughts of the past, present and future, all occurring in the timeless Now. All thoughts arise in the Present.

The single most universal spiritual claim that humanity has ever made, is that the closer you get to your true Self, the closer you get to God. The true Self is identical to Spirit itself. The inner Self is Divine. The overall number of inner selves is but one. Every person feels exactly the same when they experience true Self. Since the true Self has not objects or qualities, it can’t be different in anybody. We are all the same.

 

If You Believe Your Not Loved?

Most beliefs are formed in early childhood, many  we are not even aware of. There is a big difference between the power of beliefs, based on whether they are fundamental or ancillary.

A fundamental belief would be that you are not loved or worthy of love.  Developing this belief causes a disconnection with the world, and the people around you. Ancillary belief is if you believed a certain group of people were not worthy of love.

This disconnection with people sets us adrift in the world, with no connection to society or our place in it. We start to experience the world from the external in as opposed to the internal out. We are the passenger, not the driver, set up to become a victim, we feel powerless.

Life just happens, we don’t believe in anything and we don’t take responsibility for anything. We become dependent on the world and others to take care of us. We develop  addictive personalities, easily addicted to anything that changes the way we feel.

In this situation, we you set ourselves up for constant frustration. Life doesn’t deliver what we want. We want to be made happy, by getting a particular thing or having a particular experience, and until we get it, we live in expectation. Happiness is just around the corner, but never here and now.

As we wait there is a constant gnawing, a sense of irritation, because life is failing to deliver. Unconsciously we feel cheated, everybody seems to be getting what they want. Perversely we judge, criticize, and complain. We push people away without being aware of it. We start to pursue external power by attempting to manipulate and control people. We lie to get what we want it.

Our expectations have been swollen to impossible proportions, to which life can never satisfy. The desires get fiercer and harder then ever to satisfy, this results in a mounting sense of frustration and isolation.

We establish a pattern of a background of anger, fed by the feeling that our deep desires are not being fulfilled. This anger is always just beneath the surface of consciousness. This leaves a very low level of tolerance, so that even a small irrelevant irritation, is enough to make us miserable and depressed.

The search for value and self worth is always desperate, because the pain of wanting to be loved and feeling unlovable, wanting to love and feeling incapable of loving, needing to belong and feeling excluded is unbearable. This is the pain of powerlessness. It lies at the core of the our experience.

Powerlessness is the experience of feeling intrinsically defective, inherently ugly, and without value. It is the fear if others could see us as we really are, they would not want to be with us. It is self hatred, it is desperation.

Avoiding the pain of powerlessness continually determines our perceptions, intentions and actions. We flee them by attempting to manipulate and control circumstances. This is the pursuit of external power. We respond to our perceptions not reality.

Our perceptions are composed of opinions, feelings, thoughts, and beliefs. If we respond to opinion, feelings, and thoughts it’s because of limiting beliefs. All beliefs are limited by nature. We don’t know what we don’t know. How can you identify whats true versus an opinion, feeling or thought.

Our intentions determine our experiences whether or not we are aware of them. We must look for the why beneath the why to find the actual intention. It’s this intention that creates the consequences.

We believe that actions create consequences, and are unaware that it’s the intention behind the action that creates the consequences of the action. When we are aware of our intention (cause), we can predict the consequences that they will create (effect). When we are not aware of our intentions, the experiences that they create are often surprising and most often painful.

These experiences have four things in common.

  1. They express fear.
  2. They are painful to experience.
  3. They create painful destructive consequences.
  4. They are central to our spiritual development.

It’s only through admitting our powerlessness that we can heal. As long as our feelings of powerlessness, remain outside our awareness, we will continue to live in a “sea of suffering”. With out an intervention, our lives unfold robotically from one painful experience to another. We remain victims in the game of life, unaware that we hold the keys to the kingdom.

Only through surrender to a power greater then ourselves can we locate and challenge the dis-empowering beliefs we hold. Even though we want others to remove the pain and emptiness from our lives, we slowly learn that we are  responsible for were we are.  What is behind our eyes becomes more important than what is in front of them.

It’s only by becoming aware of the seeds we are planting (our intentions)  that we can know in advance what crop we will harvest (the consequences of our intentions). To maintain this  awareness, it’s not enough to live one day at a time, we need to live 5 minutes at a time. Our impact on the world is significant whether or not we are aware of it, and even whether or not we desire it.

As always thanks for visiting. Dave

Before Christianity; The Gita and The Tao

This unique religion caters to the Material as well as the Spiritual needs of everyone including theists and atheists alike. It’s universality makes it unique among the eminent sacred works of the world. It’s unique in that it rises above temporal questions and reveals the dynamic way by which man may achieve perfection of the self and final absolution.

The Bhagavad Gita was written between 400BC and 200AD like the Vedas and the Upanishads the authorship is unclear, although many credit Vyasa, a man more legend then actual historical figure.

Interestingly the Tao Te Ching, the classic Taoist text written in 400BC or even as early as 500BC, also has an unclear authorship, though many credit Lao Tzu, a man also more legend then historical figure.

Both the devotion to God implored in the Bhagavad Gita and the embrace of the Way (of God) explained in the Tao Te Ching are meant to bring a person closer to perfection.Indifference to Duality is evident in both the Gita and the Tao. Both texts also insinuate that the physical world is an illusion. Paradoxically both texts seem to offer wisdom that is unreachable, but at the same time imperishable.

In both your challenge is to take a good look at the way you’ve been living and to weed out old habits and beliefs that once fortified your ego but no longer serve you. They both stress the importance of working on the mind, our ways of thinking and our emotional responses to life, such as an abusive or lifeless relationship, an addiction, a history of powerlessness, overwork, or the glare of self-hatred, for example.

As you do this, you’re left to face the great canyon of emptiness that lies underneath. While it can be frightening, facing this inner void clears the slate, making way for change and regeneration.They both stress that it’s only by perfecting the soul within, that our outer environment can be perfected.

In the Gita the tasks of facing the Underworld and your shadow provoke the Kleshas, especially the one called Abhinivesha, which is (a fear of death and the tendency to cling to life). Though painful, the death of the ego is essential so that, like the mythical phoenix, you can rise from the ashes and come to life again in a more mature form.

The suffering and death of the Klesha, Asmita (the Ego), breaks through the defensive structures that frame our personalities, so we can get closer to our souls. The contraction and suffering experienced with the death of the ego can close your heart and make you feel dry, barren, and exiled. This may seem like a spiritual wasteland, but it’s one of the richest and most verdant paths of your awakening.

Although you might not yet see it, the seeds of your new self are sprouting beneath the soil of your awareness. This is often when the Klesha, Avidya (ignorance or delusion) is stimulated: You can’t see what you’ll grow into. You may also have trouble recognizing the last stage of your transition for what it is.

Finally, after all this waiting, you are reborn. This is when the Klesha called Raga (attachment to pleasure) gets stirred up. Now that you’ve moved away from suffering and death, you’re loath to re-experience it. You may rush to form an attachment to your new identity.

Yet if you’re interested in spiritual development, you don’t want to get too comfortable. If spiritual maturity is truly your priority, you must be ready to leave the comfort zone and begin again and again, as many times as it takes. Don’t get distracted by the siren song of Raga.

A spiritual initiation of the Tao is like a carving knife—it cuts and pierces, but also refines and reshapes you. It allow you to reinvent yourself completely, to give yourself over to something greater. There are windows through which you can glimpse who you really are and what’s possible for you. They’re not just an emotional necessity; they’re a spiritual imperative.

As you learn to recognize and accept the extraordinary power of change in both the Gita and the Tao, and develop the art of surrender, you’ll be rewarded with an awakening of the natural alignment between body, mind, and spirit that already exists within you.

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

 

 

 

How To Become An Author

Looking for a Purpose

Many people are looking for their purpose, their true potential. They have an idea for the best-selling book, or a money making blog, but they are frustrated and even exhausted, because they think they can’t see the next step, they’re meant to take. Even when the next step is right in front of them, which it is always, most find a reason not to move forward.

Some Say

Some say “well the time is just not right,” and others say “I’m not sure,” These excuses are so predictable, but they all boil down to the same thing. Fear of not being good enough, smart enough or deserving enough. Fear of being humiliated, embarrassed or considered not cultured enough, by people they don’t even know. It’s as if they are waiting for a guarantee that specify,

  • It will Write itself
  • It will Publish itself
  • It will Market itself
  • It will be the best-seller
  • You will become rich and famous

Join Wealthy Affiliates and I guarantee,

  • You will learn that your story matters, if not to others, than to you.
  • That self exploration will grow you as a person and maybe even help someone.
  • That to intellectually challenge yourself and do something you didn’t think you could, and succeed at it, keeps you young.
  • You become better at a skill through trial and error and practice. You don’t become better if you never do it, struggle with it, fight with it, or get angry at it.
  • You’ll have a metaphysical experience thinking about your thoughts.
  • You’ll have a therapeutic experience, looking at your thoughts and pondering, why you have them.
  • You’ll leave a legacy that will last longer than writing your name on a rock or carving it into a tree.
  • You will establish credibility, and become an authority.

What You’ll Find

What people have found is that Wealthy Affiliates provides the perfect environment for you to attempt this. With the help of WA, we come to understand that there can never come a time, when we will stop progressing, that age is an illusion, that limitation is a mistake and that unhappiness is ignorance.

WA is for you if,

  • You have a need to create, and a desire to be heard.
  • You want to learn how to move others to take action.
  • You want to be involved with a community that supports, motivates and inspires you to be better than you ever thought you could be.
  • You want to learn the skills to promote and market yourself on the internet, and be provided with a technical foundation, that ensures long term growth.
  • Your looking for a forum that reduces loneliness and provides a sense of security that anything is possible.

Never Limit Yourself

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Neuro Linguistic Programing; In Support Of

A Humanist Approach

Neuro Linguistic Programing is a Humanist approach to solving problems. It goes against the paradigm of Modernist Scientific thought, which is Newtonian based. This Empirical, Mechanistic, and Reductionist approach to problem solving focuses on the, Linear, Objective and Rational components to problem solving.

The Empirical Fallacy

From an Empirical perspective, the only way truth can be approached is through measurement and numbers. Pushed to its extreme, anything that cannot be measured or documented by numbers, does not exist and therefore by definition is not true. NLP believes that only through studying the same phenomenon from different perspectives, trying to explain what is going on, and through inter-disciplinary research, can the truth be found. Empirical research can never tell us whats going on, but only what we were able to record at a certain moment or time period.

Mechanistic Model is to Simplistic

A Mechanistic model of science limits us to a simplistic cause and effect approach to problems. Simply put if you push here you will see the effect repeatedly and predictably over there.NLP has a more Dynamism or to use a new term vitalism belief which maintains that vital activities cannot be explained and never will be explained, by the laws which govern lifeless matter. Just because you have a certain gene doesn’t mean you will be an alcoholic or if you suffer abuse, as a child, you will show A,B and C, as an adult. Neuro Linguistic Programing postulates that humans are not that predictable.

Problem with the Reductionist Approach

A Reductionist approach suggests that an analysis of the parts is sufficient for understanding.  For a reductionist “the simple is the source of the complex”. In order to explain human behavior one needs to reduce it to its constituent elements. NLP believes this creates a cascade of errors in method and logic, creates a confusion of statistical artifact with biological reality. The mind and the body affect each other.

Linear Science Assumes to Much

A Linear science assumes X causes Y which causes Z. It assumes that casual relationships are linear, geometric and explained in mathematical terms. Linear thinking does not understand multi-variant thinking and that problems are often spherical and multi-directional. NLP believes that science is a process of constant refinement and that we don’t know what we don’t know until we know it.

Objective Observation of Subjective Occurances

To be Objective, to have an unbiased view, you must be apart from. Objectivity is almost always the opposite of feeling or emotion, and is considered superior to subjectivity by Modernists. NLP recognizes that experience, feelings and emotions are all subjective therefore not measurable, or amenable to the rigors of Modernist science,

Doesn’t fit into a Rationalist Ideology.

The Rational approach in a modernist scientific world has evolved into the need to deny experience, in order to fit into an ideology. Thus Modernist Science refuses to accept many of the Neuro Linguistic Programing suppositions. How can you prove empirically, “that people aren’t broken”, or that “the past doesn’t equal the future”.

NLP Based on Ancient Beliefs

Humanist psychologists look at human behavior not only through the eyes of the observer, but through the eyes of the person doing the behaving.. They believe that an individual’s behavior is connected to his inner feelings and self image. These ideas go back as far as the traditions of the Advaita Vedanta, the ancient Hindu philosophy based on the highest wisdom of the Upanishads, The self is outside time and beyond the limited walled off ego.

Modernist Science is Very Arrogant

Trying to apply Empirical reasoning to the pre-suppositions of NLP as listed below is the epitome of arrogance. To call it a pseudo-science is to ignore the fact that there is a big difference between disagreeing with a hypothesis and proving it wrong. Modernist Science has not been able to categorically prove that any of these suppositions are wrong.

These are the Presuppositions of NLP:

  1. Respect for the other persons model of the world.
  2. The meaning of the communication is not simply what you intend, but also the response that you get.
  3. The mind and body affect each other.
  4. People respond to their experience, not to reality itself. The map is not the territory.
  5. Every behavior has a positive intention. Everyone is doing the best that they can with the resources they have available. People make the best choice they can at the time.
  6. Behavior is geared towards adaptation.
  7. Accept the person; change the behavior.
  8. Behavior and change are to be evaluated in terms of context and ecology.
  9. People have all the resources that they need to make the changes that they want. We already have all the resources we need or we can create them. There are no un-resourceful people, only un-resourceful states.
  10. Possible in the world and possible for me is only a matter of how.
  11. The system (person) with the most flexibility (choices) of behavior will have the most influence on the system.
  12. This is the Law of Requisite Variety
  13. There is no failure, only feedback.
  14. There are no resistant clients, only inflexible communicators.
  15. Having choice is better than not having choice. All procedures should be designed to increase choice and develop greater personal flexibility.
  16. All procedures should increase wholeness.

Only Through Congruence

For the holist “the whole is more then the sum of the parts”. In other words human behavior has its own properties that are not explicable in terms of the properties of the elements from which it is derived. NLP believes that only through understanding the wholeness and congruence of all elements can the mind be understood.

The Goal is to Help People

NLP offers another approach to correcting  the the general neurosis of our time, as stated by Carl Jung, “about a third of my cases are suffering from no clinically definable neurosis, but from the senselessness and emptiness of their lives. This can be described as the general neurosis of our time”. Just like Psychotherapy it has had it’s successes and failures. The system with the most flexibility will have the most influence.

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

Alcoholism; It’s a Symptom of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

The Problem

The reason recovery rates are so low in AA is because,

  1. AA only recognizes the symptom not the underlying disease

Underlying Disease Not Known at the Time

According to Dr. Lance Dodes, in his book The Sober Truth: Debunking the Bad Science Behind 12-Step Programs and the Rehab Industry (co-written with Zachary Dodes),” when the Big Book was first published in 1939, it was met with wide skepticism in the medical community. The AMA called it a curious combination of organizing propaganda and religious exhortation. A year later, the Journal of Nervous and Mental Diseases described it as a rambling sort of camp-meeting confession of experiences … Of the inner meaning of alcoholism there is hardly a word. It is all surface material.”

Bill Wilson Was a Marketer

So how did AA gain such a place of privilege in American health-culture? How did a regimen so overtly religious in nature, with a 31 percent success rate at best, a five to 10 percent success rate at worst, and a five percent overall retention rate become the most trusted method of addiction-treatment in the country, and arguably the world? It’s a central question Dodes seeks to answer in The Sober Truth. And he begins at the very beginning.

Public Relations Genius

In 1951, based on what Dodes calls “the strength of self-reported success and popular articles” (The Saturday Evening Post was a major supporter), AA received a Lasker Award, which is “given by the American Public Health Association for outstanding achievement in medical research or public health administration.” This despite “no mention of any scientific study that might prove or disprove the organization’s efficacy,” writes Dodes. But it was nevertheless a marked moment AA’s history; the moment it entered the medical establishment, and by proxy, gained implicit trust from the American.

Supported by Judicial System

In 1989, America’s first drug court began sentencing “nonviolent drug offenders” to 12-step programs.You’ve been found to have a serious, Drug or Alcohol problem. In lieu of medication, psychotherapy, or a combination thereof, the Judge prescribes nightly meetings with a group of similarly afflicted individuals, and a set of 12 non-medical guidelines for recovery, half of which require direct appeals to God.

Your Medicine has become a Problem

Why is it usually a  Judge who recommends  treatment? Because you suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a grave and serious emotional and psychological problem, and you deny having any problems, not only to yourself, but to your family, doctors, and employers. Addiction is one of the most obvious symptoms of NPD.

They See Themselves As the Answer

This brings us to the present: an addiction-treatment landscape envisioned and engineered almost entirely by AA. The 12-Step Program is the law of the land. If you have a drinking problem in 2014, or a drug problem, or a gambling problem, your medically, socially, culturally, and politically mandated solution is a set of 12 steps. The only other options, as asserted by the Big Book, are “jails, institutions, and death.”

But Not the Solution

A report published by Alcoholism Treatment Quarterly in 2000 analyzed AA membership surveys taken from 1968 through 1996. On average, 81 percent of newcomers stopped attending meetings within the first month. After 90 days, only 10 percent remained. That figure was halved after a full year.

The Real Problem

The reason for this is Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The Narcissist has a great deal of grandiosity and defensiveness, which makes it difficult if not impossible for them to acknowledge problems and vulnerabilities.

Tell Them the Truth

From their first day in treatment, the focus should be, that the Addiction is just a symptom of the disease of Narcissism. Being honest and telling people that they suffer from a mental condition, that has been classified by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, gives people a concrete framework of their condition, instead of propaganda and religious exhortation. Only with a diagnosis can an Addict start evaluating the cause and effects, Narcissism has had on their lives.

Diagnosis Leads To Recovery

Recovery can still follow the 12-steps format, with  guidance by those who have found recovery, from this seemingly hopeless state of mind and body. .Basic Psychotherapy and Neural-Linguistic Programing techniques should be incorporated in the program or at least utilized by those who have recovered. They would be useful in helping people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder relate to others in a healthier and more compassionate way.

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

 

 

Narcissistic Personality Disorder; The Bondage of Self

The Major Reason Behind Addiction

Having recovered from Alcoholism it’s my belief that Narcissistic Personality Disorder is the major reason for Addiction today. It is only when the addiction gets so bad, that treatment is demanded by family,work or the law, that the addict learns that the addiction is only a symptom of grave psychological problems.

No One Thinks They Have It

To quote the Mayo Clinic, “People with narcissistic personality disorder may not want to think that anything could be wrong, so they may be unlikely to seek treatment. If they do seek treatment, it’s more likely to be for symptoms of depression, drug or alcohol use”

Everybody Thinks It’s the Addiction

As I stated above, everyone comes in through the back door, it’s the addiction that drives them into treatment. For the few this treatment is with a Psychotherapist or an expensive stay at a Rehab, 30, 60, or 90 days or longer. For the majority the treatment consists of AA or NA, especially if they are court ordered.

Has To Be the Addicts Idea

The Mayo Clinic goes on to say,” But perceived insults to self-esteem may make it difficult to accept and follow through with treatment.” This is especially true if it’s their first experience getting sober. If they are being forced into treatment they will only do the minimum required, if that, then quit. It’s only after it becomes the addicts idea, to get sober, that they will even attempt it for real.

Once Your Sober You Realise

By real I mean stay in a program long enough to physically get sober, and become willing to attempt a program of recovery, most programs utilize the 12-step format developed by Bill Wilson and AA in the 1930s. It’s through working the program, that one comes to understand, that the addiction is only a symptom, to grave psychological problems.

Tell Them They Suffer From NPD

It’s at this point that instead of talking in generalities about higher powers, victimization and resentments the program would really benefit if they would just explain what they mean by the term,” bondage of self”. It’s my opinion that another name for the bondage of self could be Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

It Started Early

Although the cause of narcissistic personality disorder isn’t known, some researchers think that in biologically vulnerable children, parenting styles that are overprotective or neglectful may have an impact. Genetics and neurobiology also may play a role in development of narcissistic personality disorder.

It’s About Your Beliefs

How you developed the dis-empowering beliefs systems, as a child, is really secondary to understanding how these belief systems are manifesting themselves in your life. What beliefs are really holding you in bondage? It’s the dichotomy of holding the belief in your subconscious and consciously trying to deny it that makes a person miserable, wanting to self medicate.

Beliefs Cause Behaviors

Signs and symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder and the severity of symptoms vary, depending on the beliefs held. People with the disorder can:

  • Have an exaggerated sense of self-importance
  • Have a sense of entitlement and require constant, excessive admiration
  • Expect to be recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it
  • Exaggerate achievements and talents
  • Be preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate
  • Believe they are superior and can only associate with equally special people
  • Monopolize conversations and belittle or look down on people they perceive as inferior
  • Expect special favors and unquestioning compliance with their expectations
  • Take advantage of others to get what they want
  • Have an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others
  • Be envious of others and believe others envy them
  • Behave in an arrogant or haughty manner, coming across as conceited, boastful and pretentious
  • Insist on having the best of everything — for instance, the best car or office

At the same time, people with narcissistic personality disorder have trouble handling anything they perceive as criticism, and they can:

  • Become impatient or angry when they don’t receive special treatment
  • Have significant interpersonal problems and easily feel slighted
  • React with rage or contempt and try to belittle the other person to make themselves appear superior
  • Have difficulty regulating emotions and behavior
  • Experience major problems dealing with stress and adapting to change
  • Feel depressed and moody because they fall short of perfection
  • Have secret feelings of insecurity, shame, vulnerability and humiliation

 Functioning Addict?

Wikipedia had this to say about NPD “according to the DSM-5: “Many highly successful individuals display personality traits that might be considered narcissistic. Only when these traits are inflexible, maladaptive, and persisting and cause significant functional impairment or subjective distress do they constitute narcissistic personality disorder.”[6] Due to the high-functionality associated with narcissism, some people may not view it as an impairment in their lives.[12] Although overconfidence tends to make individuals with NPD ambitious, it does not necessarily lead to success and high achievement professionally. These individuals may be unwilling to compete or may refuse to take any risks in order to avoid appearing like a failure.[6][7] In addition, their inability to tolerate setbacks, disagreements, or criticism, along with lack of empathy, make it difficult for such individuals to work cooperatively with others or to maintain long-term professional relationships with superiors and colleagues.[13]  

Feeling of Irritability and Discontent

It’s when these behaviors, cause significant impairment and subjective distress, to such a level, that a person will start looking for or accidentally finds, something that changes the way they feel. These “things” obviously vary and can take the form of food, sex, gambling etc. but most people find relief through drugs and alcohol.

It’s Through the Addiction That Recovery is Possible

Fortunately it’s through the abuse of the “medication” that drives a person into treatment, where they find out, if they are lucky, that their addiction is actually a symptom. Once they understand this, the real recovery can begin.

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

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