Category: Changing Dis-Empowering Beliefs

Recovering from Addiction

The Three Stages of Learning

  1. Unconsciously Incompetent; Don’t know what we don’t know
  2. Consciously Incompetent; Know we don’t know
  3. Unconsciously Competent; Know we know

These three stages coincide perfectly with three stages of Addiction

  1. Active Addiction; To be in your Addiction, where you don’t know, what you don’t know. Oblivious of what’s happening, totally convinced that everyone drinks the way you drink.
  2. In-Recovery; Know we don’t know, Only once the pain becomes greater than the pleasure do we even consider the possibility of quitting. We understand the concept of powerlessness over our drug of choice, but struggle with the idea of our lives being unmanageable, especially if we still have a job, a wife and a house. We know something is wrong but don’t know how to fix it.
  3. Recovered; Know we know, we understand the reasons behind the Addition and the compulsion to use has been lifted.

In AA circles it’s frowned upon to say your recovered, when introducing yourself, as if it’s presumptuous to think you can ever recover. They assume everybody is stuck in the consciously incompetent stage of learning and that to know you know, why you became an addict is out of reach. This is very dis-empowering.

A Journey with No Destination

To begin a journey of recovery with no destination, no possibility of reaching the end, is to be left constantly searching. Your criticized if you act as if your tiring, or complain about the journey with no end. After a while you begin to wonder if this is a journey you want to take.

It’s natural and Human to think that a destination is not only possible but probable. A journey with not destination makes no sense. While you may enjoy the journey it’s in reaching your destination, that is cause for celebration You rejoice in reaching your goal and look forward to the next journey.

Recovery should feel like a journey of enlightenment, a joyful adventure, taking with others, that reaches it’s desired goal. Not a lifelong “trudge” to a nebulous and vague happy destiny.

It’s an Insult

I believe we are designed to be able to reach the third level of learning. To know we know, the reasons behind our addictions. That our Minds designed in the likeness of our creator has the power to find the answer to any riddle. To not believe this is to hold a dis-empowering belief about the capabilities God gave us. And an insult to the one that made us.

Solving the Riddle

Man is slowly solving the Riddles of the Universe. Great thinkers and Philosophers through the ages keep repeating one constant theme, and that is, Mans ability to Manifest in the Universe anything he desires, as long as he truly believes. In order for this to happen he first has to believe he is deserving. So many of us fail to manifest a life we have dream t about because we believe what somebody told us, instead of what history has shown us. Either intentionally or unintentionally we are told that we are either not good enough, or smart enough or deserving enough, to manifest our dreams. Because we believed these people and trusted them, and saw it in their lives, we came to believe it. How can anyone designed in the Image of our creator be undeserving?

In addition to believing that we are deserving, we also must believe that the Universe will provide. We must believe in an abundant Universe, designed for one purpose, to grow man. The Universe just like a fertile field has no choice in what it will or will not grow. The Universe knows nothing about scarcity, it provides in abundance whatever we plant. So even a person who believes they are deserving but plants only negativity and disharmony, will reap it in abundance. It’s the Law of Nature, you reap what you sow.

And finally we need and understanding of our Free Will and the Will of God. We have the freedom to believe whatever we choose to believe. We were not designed to be robots. To believe anything that dis-empowers man is not the correct use of our will. As far as God’s Will for Man, if he designed us in his image, and placed us in a Universe perfectly designed to Grow man, then it only follows that his Will for us is to be happy and prosper. God only sees good, if bad exists it because good, didn’t believe it was good.

It Comes Down To Your Beliefs

It all comes down to our beliefs. The more we focus on the dis-empowering aspects of how we got them, or who’s responsible the more strength we give them. What’s important is the realization that those beliefs are there and that they are not serving us. We must Learn what our true beliefs are. We must know we know that our beliefs are based on empowering principals, and once we know that, we are ready to embark on a new journey.

It’s dis-empowering to believe that we can never know. Life is a journey and to be considered a journey must have a destination, without one it’s only a wandering. Nobody ever said “enjoy wandering”. With beliefs firmly established in empowering principals we begin to realize, that everything that has happened on our journey we call life, needed to happen in order for us to get here. What do you want for your next destination?

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

 

 

 

 

 

Addiction is a Mental Illness

It Starts with a Belief

Ever wonder why your addicted. Stop focusing on the behaviors and start looking at the causes. The cause for all our behaviors are our beliefs. Beliefs you might not even realize you have.

Then a Behavior

Insanity is engaging in the same behavior, and expecting a different result. Your a complainer because sub-consciously you believe that complaining helps solve problems. You criticize because sub-consciously you believe it makes you feel better about yourself. Your impatient because you believe that being impatient resolves issues quicker. Your dis-empowering beliefs are the cause, and your unmanageable life is the effect. Your irritable and discontent because of this feeling of un-manageability and you seek relief.

That Makes You Miserable

Anything that will help you forget, even for a little while, this feeling, of being discontented with self. Always thinking about me, me, me. This belief that the world revolves around us, creates an endless need to be accepted and cared for by others. In more severe it can cause us to feel that we are not lovable or valuable and that we don’t really belong. We don’t feel safe being our authentic self, so we create a false self, and the fear of this false self being found out, leads to more and more elaborate lies and myth building about who we really are

It Gets Worse

As, we work harder to sustain these myths we become neurotic about being found out. This neurosis further helps establish the dis-empowering beliefs systems with regard to how we interact with the world. So in addition to being a critical, impatient, complainer we become arrogant, bossy, aggressive. We know the innate truth and it makes us angry, and discontent.

As we live with these dis-empowering beliefs, as we continue to dishonor ourselves, and permit others to dishonor us, our unexpressed anger grows. As this anger grows, eventually it explodes, usually over a minor thing, and we lash out, hurting our loved ones causing remorse or we implode, getting angry with ourselves, causing depression, or we do both. We are taught to lie in order to belong. We learn to pretend, to be different from who we actually are, to fit in, belong, to feel safe, to survive, it’s all a lie. Adults talk about being honest, and we see them lie all the time.

We Deny It

We learn denial, the ability to distract ourselves and shut down what we need and want. We deny what we observe or know to be true about others. We create fantasies of how we wish things could be, at the same time making excuses, to do nothing that would change the situation. The more we deny the less we heal, the more we lie to ourselves, the further we get from our true selves. Honesty becomes our biggest challenge.

The Way Out

In order to break ” the bondage of self “, we have to start at our spiritual center. We have to examine our belief about the Universe. The belief that the Universe is evil is a lie. We must realize that there is no such thing as evil. That it is only wrong thinking that leads to evil. We were made in the image of our Creator and his will for us is to be happy and prosper. The Universe was created specially to grow man. And like the soil will grow whatever is planted, it’s neutral, it only grows. If, we continue to plant dis-empowering beliefs we shouldn’t be surprised what we reap a lack of power in our lives. It’s simple cause and effect.

12 Steps

The 12 Step program of recovery has been around since the 30s. Following the steps allows a transmutation to occur in your thinking. You come to the realization that instead of being the victim in your life, you can be the hero, and it’s simply a choice, that you can make.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder

A Narcissistic Personality Disorder creates a belief system that only sees the world through the eyes of your ego. It creates a reality based on lies, which leaves us feeling isolated and alone. The feelings of irritability and discontent are the effects of Narcissistic thinking. The main problem with the Narcissist is that they are trapped in the bondage of self. It’s my BELIEF that Narcissistic Personality Disorder is not the rare psychological condition that some would like us to believe, but that it’s the root cause of most additions today.

I Know What I Know

According to Martha Beck in her book ” Finding Your Way in a Wild New World”, in order to be a genius at anything, it takes 10,000 hours of deep practice. Following that criteria then I’m a genius when it comes to Alcoholism. I’ve earned my seat and I know what I know. Today I’m more convinced the ever, that lurking beneath every addiction is a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. When we start addressing this Disorder head on, is when we will start seeing recovery rates climb.

Another Lie

To say that this condition is rare and that people can’t recover from a seemingly hopeless case of mind and body, is to nurture a dis-empowering belief, usually for financial gain.

As always, thanks for visiting, Dave

Baby Boomers get Smarter as they age

Most Baby Boomers have an irrational fear of Dementia, most of us would be devastated to find even mild Brain damage, thinking it as a harbinger of Alzheimers Disease.

Why we Don’t Scan the Brain

Why has the Medical Establishment promoted Colonoscopy and Prostate testing, while ignoring Brain Scans? Especially when you consider that Brain Scans are much less invasive to the body and that incidences of Dementia rivals and often exceeds the incidences of these other afflictions.

  1. The first dis-empowering belief is a hold over of the old Cartesian Mind-Body Dualism Theory, that the Mind is not of the Body.
  2. The other dis-empowering belief that is still prevalent, that nothing could be done if a problem was found.

Both these beliefs are wrong, Medicine has refuted the Cartesian Theory, proving that the Mind is of the Brain, and thus of the body, and with the recent and rapid advent of various pharmacological and non pharmacological ways of treating and protecting the Brain against decay, the idea that nothing can be done, is also false.

Neurotic Fear of Aging

I believe that it’s Neurotic response to aging. There is a Denial and even a refusal, to even consider, that anything could be wrong. This anxiety is especially keen with Baby Boomers, who are being constantly bombarded with the Medias preoccupation with so called Alzheimer Epidemic.

Another dis-empowering belief that has gained traction is that we are doomed, and that our Minds become weaker and slower, as we age, and that decreased Brain function is not only probable but inevitable. This kinda of Group Think is wrong and needs to be replaced with a more empowering and accurate belief. While it’s true that our Minds change as we age, it’s become the opinion of many, that this change is for the better and not the worst.

The Wisdom Paradox

Elkhonen Goldberg, in his book “The Wisdom Paradox; How our mind can grow stronger as your brain grows older”, goes into great detail about the Brain and it’s relationship with the Mind. This world-renowned neuropsychologist, in lively and very accessible prose, outlines how the elegant structure of our brains develop and change over the course of a lifetime.

He talks about how, as we age we develop a “cognitive expertise”, a gradual transition from “hardwired” to a more open-ended, open-minded design. This design gives Boomers, the neural capacity for processing complexity of any kind and filling it with content. We recognize this as expertise.

He goes on to say,that this seemingly effortless ability to “see through things”, and that depending on the context and complexity is seen as competence and in rare cases wisdom. He states, ” that this ability does not come by itself as an epiphany of maturity, or as an entitlement to old age, but is the condensation of mental activities across years and decades of life”.

The scope and quality of ones mental lifetime, shapes the quality of its final stages. The importance of working the Mind especially once we reach our sixties can’t be over stated. To just turn off and enter a period of repeated “groundhog days”,watching TV and going to Dr. appointments, is doing a disservice to yourself and world.

Wisdom Begins in Wonder

The quote above by Socrates is more true today than ever. Regardless of age one must continue to test ones mind, and strive for new mental challenges. You’ve spent a lifetime building a social network. Sometimes by accident of birth and place of residence and sometimes on purpose making friends and business contacts. So many people today go to their deaths never utilizing the network they spent a lifetime building. So many people, sit around worrying that their going to outlive their money, and all the bad things that are going to befall them. Without ever realizing that they have a large untapped social network, that could be monetized, if only they could tap into it some way.

A Thinkers High

Many of us have heard of a “runners high”, well if you strive for new mental challenges, opportunities, or goals no matter your age you could experience a ” thinkers high”. A flash of cognitive expertise when you go Aha! “this is just like that”.

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Watch what you Believe

Did you believe these lies?

  • You can see the Great Wall of China from space
  • older elephants near death don’t go off searching for the elephant graveyard
  • Bulls are not enraged by the color red.
  • Dogs don’t sweat by salivating.
  • Lemmings don’t engage in mass suicide
  • Bats are not blind
  • Ostriches don’t stick their head in the sand when frightened
  • Earthworms don’t become two when cut in half
  • House flies live 20 to 30 days not 24 hours
  • Poinsettias are not toxic to humans or cats
  • Computers running Mac are not immune to malware
  • Waking sleepwalkers doesn’t harm them
  • Eating less than an hour before swimming doesn’t increase your chances of drowning
  • Shaving doesn’t cause hair to grow back thicker
  • Hair and nails don’t continue to grow after death
  • Sugar does not cause hyperactivity
  • Alcohol does not kill brain cells
  • Obesity is not related to a slower metabolism
  • Sex before a sporting event is not detrimental to performance
  • Vaccines do not cause autism
  • People do not use only 10% of their brain
  • Stress plays a minor role in hypertension
  • Diamonds are not formed from compressed coal

Conclusion

A lot of what we believe is wrong, especially when it comes to ourselves

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

 

 

 

Can Baby Boomers Change their Beliefs?

It’s Time to Re-evaluate

Once you reach a certain age it’s natural to go through a period of re-evaluation. We look back and wonder how’d I get here, and now that I’m here where am I going? I’ve been doing a lot of reading lately in a book be Ernest Holmes, “The Science of the Mind”, I came across the term “cause and effect”, Holmes basically said that the” cause” is our thoughts and the “effect” is our life. Digging deeper my thoughts were only the effects of my beliefs. If you dissatisfied with the life you have, it’s because of the beliefs you hold. It became clear to me that if I wanted to change my life I had to start with my beliefs. This has turned out to be easier said than done.

If I really wanted to change these beliefs, I had to find out where they have been hiding. As I started to research this, I’ve come to find that there is a lot of differing opinions about our Minds and how it works and that this debate has been the subject of Philosophers for ever, and our understanding of what Consciousness is still just now being understood. I’m going to try to summarize what I’ve come up with, and see if this makes any sense to you.

Where are our Beliefs Held?

Most “experts” agree that the mind is basically divided into two parts, This Duelists approach see the mind having an unconscious subjective side and a conscious objective side. Now to complicate this debate physicists have come to believe that the Universe, matter as we know it, is really just energy, each element vibrating at different frequencies, these vibrations are received in the Mind thru neutral receptors and arranged into intelligent formations. These formations are our perceptions and they are stored in the mind. These perceptions are stored in the mind first in the part of the mind concerned with the now( the conscious side) and later moved to (the unconscious side) that is concerned with the past.

The experts theorize that the unconscious part of the mind takes up 87% of available capacity. What’s interesting about this subjective part of the mind is that it’s not interested if a thought is true or false, it’s just there. The conscious side of the mind the objective side being a lot smaller doesn’t have the room to store all this information. so once a thought is perceived in the conscious mind it goes through a process of reticular activation, where the mind works 24/7 looking for examples to either support or deny the validity of the thought. Depending on the input it forms patterns of formation which in turn become habits and beliefs and eventually they are moved to the unconscious to make room for things in the now. Once a habit or belief is moved to the subjective side of the mind it’s no longer concerned if it’s true of false it just is.

How Beliefs are Formed

To give you an example of this process, say your a young child between the age of birth to 8 years old, and your conscious mind sees a situation where complaining works to get what someone wants. Through the process of reticular activation the mind starts looking for patterns to prove and reaffirm what the conscious mind saw. If the child s environment is filled with a lot of complaining this thought pattern (complaining works) becomes a habitual thought and eventually a belief, and gets filed away in the memory of the subjective mind, which is not concerned whether it’s true or not. The child is totally unconscious of this happening. But the habit of complaining about things is now a part of his behavior, because subconsciously he believes it works.

Fundamental and Ancillary Beliefs

We form beliefs about everything, it’s important to recognize that It’s the scope of the belief that’s important Is it a fundamental belief or an ancillary belief? There is a big difference in believing Lima beans are bad (ancillary belief) versus believing vegetables are bad (fundamental belief) It’s possible to have a good life with some dis-empowering beliefs as long as they are ancillary beliefs. It’s even possible to have a good life if some of your dis-empowering beliefs are fundamental as long as they are balanced with some powerful fundamental beliefs

. Another example, there is a big difference in believing a certain man can’t be trusted versus believing people can’t be trusted. This person may attain an overall sense of belonging and even a sort of happiness dealing with others but the chances of this person having a happy life are highly reduced simply because of this one belief. Look at the difference, believing I can’t change versus people don’t change easily, would have on a person. They would have no problem in believing others could change but when it came to them personally they would constantly be presented with situations that would reinforce their belief that they can’t change. When challenged, that they are resistant to change, they will hide behind a mask and lie saying that’s not true, when in reality they subconsciously believe it.

We Can Change

The good news is that we can change, and it starts with awareness. Realizing that it’s the dis-empowering beliefs that are the cause. The neutral universe will only grow what is planted no more no less. Think back to a time when you only had a phone in your house and if you weren’t home you missed the call. Remember when the first message machines came out and we could review the call we had missed. And now think what you would do if you left your cell phone at home.

The Mind of God

The
mind of God, which is in us all, takes the beliefs we hold and
manifest’s them into our lives., Medicine can’t explain it but
spiritualists down through the ages have spoken about it, written about
it and have believed in it. You can choose to believe it or not it’s
your choice. Long term personal growth must include the encouragement to
think for ourselves, challenge long held beliefs that haven’t served us
and establish new beliefs. I believe we are our own Higher Power, the
kingdom of heaven lies within us. Jesus, Buddha, Mohammad and Allah they
all lie within us. They are all actually aspects of us. We have it in
ourselves to create the world of our dreams. Fear (ego) is terrified
that we might learn this and continues to tell us that our nature is
sinful. By keeping us focused on the outside we never connect with our
inside, our Higher Self.

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why Baby Boomers are not retiring

Lived a Mediocre Life

There are any number of reasons, that Baby Boomers are not retiring when they could, and it doesn’t have anything to do with fear of out living our money. It’s a fear that you might die with your dream still inside you. Ever have that feeling that you lived a mediocre life? A life that just moved along with you in it. Think back and you probably had no idea that you would spend a large part of your life, doing what you did.

Found your Career by Luck

I read somewhere, that 75% of men, find, what turns out to be their career job, simply by luck. Being in the right or wrong place at the right or wrong time. No planning, no thought out career search, just plan old luck. And in most cases because it was easy and paid decen(or at least what you’d accept), you ended up staying there for 10,20 and maybe 30 years. The years just kinda moved along taking you with them.

Resist Change

We are all creatures of habit, and we all resist change. In a lot of cases change is either forced on us or the pain of not changing gets so bad that we have to change. But we don’t really like it. What’s behind it, fear, of the unknown, but basically it’s fear of ourselves. That we won’t make the right decision or trusting any decision we might make. And where did this fear come from? It came from your parents, who quite by accident planted the ideas in your mind, that your not lucky, and that it’s who you know, not what you know, to accept the status quo, don’t rock the boat, be happy with what you got, and the most devastating one, your not smart enough. These ideas, as innocent as they were, when first broached,over time, have become beliefs. Beliefs that you might not even be aware that you carry, until now.

What About the Dream

So now your retired, from that mediocre career, and the thought crosses your mind what now? And the longer you sit around doing nothing, the stronger the feeling gets, that there has to be more to life them this. But you can’t figure out what you want to do next. If your in that position you might want to take a look at your beliefs. You know those nice warm beliefs, youv’e been holding forever. Their like old friends you wouldn’t think of giving up. Well lets review some of these old friends and see if they are really serving us.

Belief; Nobody cares what I think or would be Interested.

I firmly believe that everyone has a best-selling book, hidden inside them. The idea that nobody would be interested in your story is a dis-empowering belief, that only you are holding. We watch TV everyday filled with stories that people, just like us, have made up, and half the time we think it’s crap. We watch the talking heads and wonder to ourselves or out loud, how in the world did that person get on TV ? Well the reason we are watching, them is that they believed they could do it.

Experts say that creativity is contained within the dark side of our personalities. Use the fear and judgment to fuel your creativity. Let your fears bring out the story your’e always wanted to tell. Allow yourself to be vulnerable, it’s what people want. Aren’t you tired of the same old sequel or a rehash of the same old theme over and over? Today more them ever before book publishers are looking for original content. They are so desperate, that they will even publish a book for free. The means of achieving this are becoming more accessible by the day.

Belief; I Don’t know how

The qualities that people are looking for today are stories that are authentic, unique and real with honesty and vulnerability. If they also include a desire to help or inform, them you have a winning combination. People are fed up with being marketed to by hip slick Madison avenue ad agencies that push out the same rehashed shit year after year.

Today, individuals have the ability of getting information in front of millions of people. This personal mass media power was only available to corporations and the well-connected just a decade ago. Now we all carry access to millions in our pants pocket or purse. The cell phone with its access to the internet gives you mass media power unthought of 10 years ago. It fills me with wonder and jealousy, what the next 10 or 20 years will bring.

Belief; I’m not Smart Enough

Knowledge has never been more accessible. With access to the internet you can literally tap into resources unimaginable even 10 years ago. You have the time, your retired right. Find that niche, something your passionate about and start telling the world about it, just like you’d tell a friend. The funny thing about becoming a best-selling author is that the more obscure the topic, the easier it is to become a best-seller. Becoming a best-seller, immediately gives you credibility in your niche, and with credibility comes traffic.

Belief; It sounds like a lot of Work

Finding a niche your passionate about, takes the word work out of the equation, and replaces it with play. Alan Watts said that the goal of every man should be to find a way to get paid to play. To immerse yourself in a passion, to look forward to bringing it into reality step by step, to imagine and them create, is truly what we were meant to do.

Conclusion

If this sounds simple it is, I write in a simple style, because I’m not a professional writer. I’m a Boomer just like you, that believes that the universe was designed to grow man. It can’t help but grow whatever you plant, just like fertile soil, if you plant a seed it grows it, it doesn’t have a choice. We were given the choice to decide what we plant. Philosophers throughout history all say the same thing, “as man believes so shall he be”.

Evaluate some beliefs you’re holding, beliefs that were handed down to you by your parents, they did the best they could with the tools they had. If you believe that you’re deserving of only a little happiness and a little prosperity, them that’s what the universe will provide. It’s a simple matter of cause and effect. Your beliefs (thoughts) are the cause and your life is the effect.

Scarcity and limitation was not our creators intent for us. God’s will was always that man be happy and prosper. If your not happy and dreading the next 10 or 20 years, then you have allowed some dis-empowering thoughts to creep into your mind. It’s not important, how they got there, what is important is being aware they are there. Use them as fuel to power you into self actualization, as Maslow said “once you think you can, you must.

I’m developing this Website specifically for Boomers like me, to discuss and analyze any number of the dis-empowering beliefs that we have latched on to, and to pull them out by there roots.

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

 

 

 

 

The Law of Unfoldment

The Law

There is a law of unfoldment in man, which states he can advance only
by going from where he is, to the place where he would like to be. This
is not because the Law is limited, but because it is Law. As man unfolds
in his mentality, the Law automatically reacts to him. We all start at the beginning and as we complete each task our understanding increases, the information starts to unfold in our minds. We become more confident and slowly we start to manifest, what we imagined.

Where do we start

The way to do this is to begin right where we are and through constantly applying
ourselves to the training, we gradually increase in wisdom and
understanding, for in this way alone will good results be obtained. If
day by day we have a greater understanding and a clearer concept, if
daily we are learning more and applying it in our actions, then we are
on the right path and eventually we shall see results. This is a law, but we never stop, even if you make mistakes, you keep moving toward your goal.

It is a wonderful

It is a wonderful experience and a great adventure to make conscious use of the training,to feel that we can plant an idea in our mind and see it gradually take
form. Taking something from our imagination and turning it into reality is what gives pleasure. It’s an example of cause and effect.

Don’t be impatient

There should not be any sense of hurry or worry about this, just a calm, peaceful sense of reality. Let the Law work through and express itself in, the experience. There should be no idea of compulsion. We do not have to make the Law work, it is its nature to work. Let nature takes its course, you can hurry a tree to grow or a flower to bloom.

Enjoy the Experience

In gladness, then, we should make known our desires, and in confidence we should wait upon the Law to manifest through us. Taking an idea or desire and giving it forms, is turning the immaterial into the material. It’s like creating art, it should be fun. Don’t stress.

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Science of the Mind; Everything you know is wrong

Thoughts are Things

Health and sickness are largely externalizations of our dominant mental and spiritual states. An emotional shock, or a mind filled with thoughts of fear, has been known to cause the momentary stoppage or acceleration of the heart. Physicians now testify that, under emotional stress, particularly anger, the blood leaves a chemical deposit around the joints in the body.

Worry, fear, anger, jealousy, and other emotional conditions, are mental in their nature, and as such are being recognized as the hidden cause of a large part of all the physical suffering to which the flesh is heir. A normal healthy mind reflects itself in a healthy body, and conversely, an abnormal mental state expresses its corresponding condition in some physical condition. Thoughts are things.

Cause and Effect

We are given the power to sit in the midst of our lives and direct their activities. Strife and struggle are unnecessary. We only need to know, but we must know constructively. The material universe was created to manifest what the mind believes. Just so far as we believe upon any condition, past, present or future we are creating chaos, because we are than dealing with conditions (effects) and not the causes. It’s our thinking that cause the effects. And we think the way we do because of our beliefs.

Is it the Ego holding you back

Who told you too old to build muscle tone? Who told you that steam and saunas are bad. Who told you that losing flexibility and balance are just a sign of aging? Whoever it was lying to you, and if you continue to believe it, it’s because you want to believe it. That dis-empowering belief is comfortable and warm and you use to it. The ego is telling you can’t and it won’t, that you’ll look foolish. Who do you think you are? The ego hates change, it fears that change will push him off the stage and you ego loves the stage. And for years all the ego has been doing is making you sick.

Your Mind can grow Stronger so can you

It’s time to take control of you mind. Understanding how our minds work is a science and we are finding out more of how it works on almost a daily basis. Elkhonon Goldberg in his book “The Wisdom Paradox; How you mind can grow stronger as you brain grows older”, discusses how outdated neurological concepts are being disproved on a daily basis. Science has disproved the idea that me are only given so many brain cells and when they die they don’t regenerate new ones. It’s a lie. Reading his book will change the way you think about aging and our thinking capabilities.

60 is the new 50

If,you can buy into that than it isn’t such a leap to think that 70 is the new 60. With the advances in health care and a changing consciousness, especially within the Baby Boomer generation, that you are what you believe you are. And if you not happy you can change starting NOW. I’m passionate about showing my generation that we don’t have to go meekly into the shadows but instead stay in the sunlight of the spirit for many more years than we may have originally thought possible. So if all of a sudden you realize you have another 20 productive years ahead of you, what do you want to do about it? Don’t die with you dream inside you.

Conclusion

Follow me as I challenge dis-empowering beliefs about what it means to grow old in our society today and how some of our so called advocates are nothing more than shills for huge corporate interests. Some first and foremost dis-empowering beliefs we have to deal with, is what it means to be fit.
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Limiting Beliefs

One of the things that makes life worth living, is showing people, especially Baby Boomers, how to overcome limiting beliefs. Having goals and striving to attain them no matter your age, adds purpose and meaning to your life. To be without personal goals is to live a groundhog existence, where every day is the same as the day before. Days filled with meaningless activities designed to eat time, is like dying a slow death.

Watching days go bye, endlessly fighting that nagging feeling that there has to be more. Constantly at war within yourself, feeling that there has to be more to life. Fighting that nagging feeling of despair that you’ve left something undone. To live out your “retirement” with these types of thoughts going through your head, is stressful not to mention hard work.

To watch TV endlessly, constantly comparing yourself to both real and fictional characters. Being contemptible of the real people, sharing their beliefs and viewpoints, while being sympathetic and identifying with the fictional characters whose make believe lives help you to escape, even if its just for a few hours, the mundane monotony of yours. Believing that this is all that your capable of, sitting in front of a box full of illusions.

You Should be on TV

Ever consider why it isn’t you up on that screen, reading that script, or pontificating about something you believe in. Your just as good-looking, even better than some, and your opinion is just as viable, if not more so than theirs. So why are you here and not there? It’s because you believe, deep down that your either not smart enough, not good enough or not deserving enough to be up there.

You have become willing to sit idly bye and watch others manifest their dreams, while yours stay buried deep in the recesses of your mind. It’s only because you’ve convinced yourself that your not capable. For years, you’ve bombarded your subconscious mind with negative self talk that your not enough. Even now your subconscious is telling you your not healthy enough, or smart enough or deserving enough. Yet everyday you watch people, just like you, manifest their dreams, right in front of you.

What’s their Secret?

They have empowering beliefs about themselves and the world. For a number of reasons they have formed empowering beliefs, where you have formed dis-empowering ones. They seem to know, what a lot of us have forgotten. That we are creations of a divine intelligence built in its image, with all its capabilities and talents. That we have been placed in a Universe that has one main purpose, and that’s to grow man. Given free will to believe whatever we want, our divine mind works 24/7 manifesting that belief into the neutral Universe, that’s been designed to provide whatever we believe we are worthy of.

When did you Start Believing

Whenever you decided to believe the dis-empowering beliefs you been holding is unimportant. What’s important today be that you are aware. And with awareness can come change. Your divine mind is capable of doing anything you believe it can do. Once you realize that the life your living is because you chose it, you can choose to change it. if, your not happy than your not living God’s Will for yourself. God’s Will is for you to be happy and grow prosperous.

Why does a tree grow effortlessly, in a forest, that from above looks like a massive parkland designed by master gardeners. It’s because it has no dis-empowering beliefs about being a tree. Why don’t you see any starving birds. They don’t worry about the Universe not providing they believe it will.

if, your not happy than change it. Stop beating yourself up that its taken so long, realize that everything that has happened in your life had a reason, and it got you here, now. Be thankful, its part of the journey, your journey. It doesn’t matter when you wake up, just that you wake up.

Stop Limiting Yourself

Limiting yourself and living an unfulfilled life is actually harder than manifesting the life of your dreams. To constantly be judging and comparing yourself to others is extremely hard and destroys your body. Instead of wasting time doing that, look for what your passionate about. What gives you pleasure and enjoyment, what would seem like play to you than figure out a way to make money doing it. Allan Watts said ” that the goal of every man is to get paid to play”. Find that passion and show others how they can do it to if they believe it strong enough.

Stop being the victim to your own dis-empowering beliefs. Design a life that makes you happy. You can start now. Change happens in the now, start small and work outwards.

Where to Begin

Start with your words, both how you speak to yourself and others. Watch for those self-defeating terms, and eliminate any demeaning comments. By being aware of your words and how you’ve’e been talking to yourself and others, you can shift the most powerful thing you have into your favor, your word.

Start by saying the opposite of what you normally say, start asking people how their day is going, and be interested in how they respond, how they sound, take notice. Start looking everyone in the eye and start forcing yourself to smile.

Stop Assuming

Stop making assumptions that you know what others are thinking. Stay focused on your own thinking. Think how can I be of service, how can I make this time better. How can I ease someone burdens.Be that ray of sunshine in a cloudy day. Quit the debating society, stop being so concerned about the world out there and worry about the world in here, your mind.

Quite the static, be aware of discordant sounds and noise create peace. Start noticing what brings negativity to your mind and start eliminating it, item by item.

Don’t take it Personal

Become aware that anything anybody says or does to you is’isn’t about you, its about them. They are playing their role and your only a character in their movie. If they have decided your the villain in their show there is nothing you can do to change the directors mind. Stay true to yourself and try not to get sucked into their drama. Again it does’isn’t have anything to do with you, its all an illusion.

Do your Best

You can only try to do your best. Realizing that we are by nature imperfect. We learn by experience, and some lessons take a long time, a very long time. But when we are ready than we will know. Don’t get down because you continue to fail to live up to your expectations, understand that the most critical judge you ever face is yourself. Missing the mark doesn’t mean your bad it only shows that your human. Realize that and take better aim. With this awareness you give yourself space. Notice how impatient you are with yourself

It’s all a part of the journey. Our imperfections are how we judge perfection. Without them we would have no way to measure, and we would not see growth. We all grow at our own rate, wishing it could be different isn’t going to make us grow any faster, as a matter of fact it retards growth. Take sustenance in progress, be aware how far you’ve’e come from where you were and enjoy the journey.

Conclusion

They say the worst thing you can do is die with your dream inside you. Being aware that the only one stopping you is that person in the mirror. Isn’t it about time that you and him start working together?

 

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Mind-Body Connection

The Mind-Body Connection

Last Update: September 26, 2018

Is Exercise Enough?

It’s long been known and accepted that physical activity releases endorphins, which can help increase a person’s sense of well-being. This is especially true for Baby Boomers. Having a fitness routine focused on building muscle tone not only builds your body, but helps your mind. The more I worked on improving my body, the more I realized that I needed to work on my mind as well. When I first considered the idea of meditation, while sitting in the sauna after a work out, I thought it would be just a matter of sitting still and shutting down my mind for ten minutes or so, boy was I mistaken.

I Couldn’t Meditate

I was totally dismayed with myself, not only could I not sit still for even 5 minutes, but my mind refused to shut down at all. I remember just trying to count to sixty and not being able to do it. It’s then that I realized that meditation was going to be a lot harder for me then I anticipated.

Quiet the Mind

In order for me to start getting a handle on meditation I had to think of times when my mind was relatively quiet. I thought it was when I was sitting in the sauna or alone in the park, walking my dogs, but as I started watching my thoughts while doing these things, I realized that my mind was constantly jumping from one topic to another, and going into the future or revisiting the past, over and over again. The more I started looking at my thinking the more evident it became that not only couldn’t I control it but I spent very little time in the present, I was never in the now. It was either in the past or the future.

Ego Loves The Past

In doing some follow up reading about staying in the present, I stumbled on the role of the ego. I came to find out that it was my ego, that loves to replay the past, wishing it could be different, or dreading the future, with all its what if’s, and hope it don’t s. But I don’t want to digress into a discussion about the ego, I’ll save that for a future blog.

The Importance of Golf

But I really had to think about a time when was I present. And it dawned on me, that the only time I was really in the present was when I was playing golf. I had known for a long time that if I didn’t maintain concentration on what I was doing while playing, I couldn’t hit the ball. You have to be centered and focused on what your doing, totally in the now, in order to play well.

The Starting Point

Thinking about what it is that your doing, and concentrating on the now, is the first step in learning how to quiet the mind. If your can find that, your have your starting point.

It Starts with Awareness

Once I started to be aware of my thinking, a whole new perspective opened up for me. I realized for the first time that I had an undisciplined mind. A mind that jumped from thought to thought, without any regard for how I felt, I was just along for the ride. This awareness, this change in perspective was Hugh, and its from this beginning, that I’ve been able to start getting a handle on my thinking.

Most Thoughts Are Repetitive

Realizing that a majority of my thoughts were just repetitive and often problematic, has allowed me to take control of them, now when they come up, I just let them pass, saying to myself, I’ve already thought about that enough, its only my ego at work. This little trick has improved my mood immensely.

Negative Self-Talk

I also started paying attention to my negative self talk and started to be aware of how self-defeating and non-productive it was. I started to think about the saying, “If your had a friend that talked to you the way your talk to yourself, would they be your friend?/” and realized that the answer would be no.

New Attitude

This awareness gave me a new attitude and it all started with exercise. By working on your body, you start paying attention to your mind. They go hand in hand, body-mind, as your start feeling better, your start thinking better. The experts are going to tell your that it takes hard work and dedication. I’m here to show your how just starting a simple exercise program, to regain muscle tone, can lead to an awareness that anything is possible. Take care of your body and the mind will follow.

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