Category: Changing Dis-Empowering Beliefs

The Causes of Alcoholism; Who you going to trust?

What’s better Study or Experience?

Who would you trust? Someone who has studied painting for 30 years or somebody who has painted for 30 years? Someone who has studied dancing for 30 years or someone who has danced for 30 years? Someone who has studied alcoholism for 30 years or someone who had been alcoholic for 30 years? Someone who has studied recovery or someone who has recovered? They’re people out there, that believe something because they have studied it, then there are those that believe because they know.

Beliefs; Subjective or Objective

While to believe is good there are levels of belief, both subjective and objective. The belief gained through study is subjective, and the belief gained through experience is objective. You can trust the belief gained through education but you can have faith in the belief gained through experience. What is stronger trust or faith?

Faith vs Trust

If you have lived with dis-empowering beliefs for 30 years, like I have you can have faith that I know, as opposed to someone who has studied dis-empowering beliefs for 30 years. They may trust they know but they don’t have faith that they know. The arrogance of people with education and a lot of letters behind their names never cease to amaze me. The egos of these people, is only surpassed by how wrong they have been, about so many things, they believed they knew.

Can you Trust the Experts?

We laugh today at what the “experts” told us was true only 50 years ago. History has shown us this over and over. Often at the determent to the population at large. Yet the “experts” never stop pontificating about something they trust to be true. Simply because they have studied the problem, only to be proven wrong by someone who has lived the problem, and who was brave enough to talk or write about it.

The Hubris

When I hear or read about an “expert” telling the world that alcoholism is an incurable disease, I’m struck by the hubris of the statement, I wonder how, without really living it, they can be so sure of themselves. Without any regard to who it hurts, when they spread these dis-empowering beliefs, into the public arena. Unless you’ve lived it you don’t really know, well I know.

A Life of Alcoholism

I’ve lived around alcoholism my whole life and have suffered with it for 30 years. It has affected every aspect of my life. It has been responsible for killing three careers, two marriages and the relationship with my children, and I know hundreds of other people who have experienced the same and even worse. What I’ve also seen is hundreds of people who have successfully recovered from this seemingly hopeless state of mind and body, and I’m one of them. When I read that its incurable I look in the mirror and ask what do they know? Am I a lie?

The Motivation is Money

Are these “experts” going to tell me I can’t trust my own experiences? That a person can’t have faith that not only is recovery from alcoholism possible but attainable. Again what are the motivations behind anyone telling people that alcoholism is incurable. I’m here to tell everyone that alcoholism can be cured, and you don’t have to attend meetings for the rest of your life to accomplish it. Recovery can occur quite quickly, if we started to focus on the root cause as opposed to just looking at the effects.

It’s Narcissism

Nobody likes to admit they are Narcissistic. And this is the whole problem, nobody will admit it. The condition of Narcissism by its very nature is to deny, deflect and misdirect attention elsewhere. The Narcissist manipulates the situation in such a way that blame can never be placed where it belongs. It’s like this mental illness’s mantra is call me anything, but don’t call me narcissistic. Well the jig is up’ the cats out of the bag.

Attend 90 in 90, see for yourself

Anybody who has seriously read the symptoms and behaviors of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) only has to attend 90 in 90 to be thoroughly convinced that its this, mental illness, that is not only behind alcoholism but is the root cause behind most addictions today. The third step prayer in A.A. especially asks God to remove “the bondage of self”. And NPD in its pure form is the bondage of self.

It’s the Beliefs you Hold

Being stuck with the dis-empowering beliefs, that convince us, that we are separate, alone and victims in a hostile universe, makes us so unhappy, and discontent that we either actively search for relief or find it by accident. And the medicine that’s been most easily found, since forever, has been alcohol, but it certainly is’nt the only medication people turn too.

Dismay Recovery Rates

It’s my opinion that this obsession of the mind, is the mental illness called Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The sooner we start to realize this and bring it the attention it deserves, the sooner we will see an improvement in the dismal recovery rates we continue to see. Only through a psychic change that I finally experienced in Step 11, have I become willing to show my own vulnerabilities and have the confidence to start speaking out.

Check it Out

I encourage anyone reading this, that if you or someone you know ,is suffering from an addiction, of any kind, that you look at NPD. Our beliefs create our thinking. Our thinking leads to behaviors and emotions and creates the life we live. Once we realize, we are not our thoughts, then we can start the healing process. My blogs will cover all kinds of dis-empowering beliefs and shine the light empowerment upon them. I look forward to any comments you may have and welcome them. It’s only through open and honest communication that we can pull back the curtain. Once, your aware, there is no going back. Enjoy the journey.

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave






Want to Quiet the Noise in Your Mind?

Here are somethings I’ve started to try that have helped me, maybe they will help you to.

  1. Start listening to Classical music when you drive. Classical music has been proven to be the only form of music that engages both sides of the mind, ensure you listen to it at low volume.
  2. Cancel the local Newspaper. Being a subscriber for years and years I thought that this would be a daunting task, what I found instead is that I didn’t become so emotionally tied to things, if I didn’tknow about them. I realized that I didn’t need my finger on the pulse of everything that was happening around the city and in the country. If it’s of real importance it would find it’s way to me.
  3. Monitor my TV, if you have a DVR record what you want to watch. Try to eliminate all commercials. Never channel surf and remove the TV from the bedroom and never go to sleep with the TV on.
  4. Go to the local park and just walk for thirty to forty minutes every day.
  5. Start reading the books you’ve been putting off for years, especially before going to bed.
  6. Listen to white noise audio while sleeping, start a dream journal.
  7. Take a sauna or steam three times a week
  8. Start exercising thirty to forty minutes three times a week
  9. Stop the negative mind talk, be impeccable with your work

As always, thanks for visiting, Dave





What Causes Alcoholism

Just Because It’s in Google Doesn’t Mean it’s True

If you what to find out about Alcoholism, don’t always look to Google for the answer. The other day I typed Alcoholism into Google, and the first listing on page 1 was the Mayo Clinic. This is their definition of Alcoholism, “a chronic disease, characterized by uncontrolled drinking, and a preoccupation with alcohol”. Then right underneath in bold letters is written very common, “more then 3 million cases a year”.They follow this with the LIE, “treatment can help, but this condition can’t be cured”.

Alcoholism 4th Preventable Cause of Death

Number 2 on page 1 is which talks about how 18 million adults have an Alcohol Use Disorder, (AUD), which they characterize as not being physically dependent, but still a serious problem. AUD has three levels mild, moderate and severe. Number 3 on page 1 is that writes, “88,000 people die each year from alcohol related causes. That it’s the 4th leading preventable cause of death in America”. They go on to state, “Alcohol abuse is treatable and that there are a number of Rehab Facilities that specialize in Alcohol Addiction Programs and Therapies”. They than go on to list the common factors why people turn to Alcohol.

  1. Relieve Stress
  2. Feel good
  3. Cope with loss
  4. Overcome anxiety

Confusion, is it curable or not?

Is it any wonder, that there is so much confusion and misunderstanding, about an addiction, that has been around since Man first crushed grapes. The Mayo Clinic says it’s not curable, without giving any reasons why. The Rehab site says it’s curable, and gives simplistic and inaccurate reasons about what causes alcoholism.

Mental Illness is the Root Cause of Addictions

These sites obviously have different agendas, my question is why none of these sites, state what millions of people know, that the addiction to alcohol is simply an allergy of the body caused by a mental obsession of the mind, and that millions have recovered from this seemingly hopeless state of mind and body. It’s known now that almost all addictions are caused by mental illness, and the sooner we get consistency from the “experts” about the role mental obsessions play in addiction, the sooner we can help more people find relief.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder

It is my Hypothesis that almost all Addictions are the direct result of the mental disease called Narcissistic Personality Disorder, (NPD). This disorder was first diagnosed in 1985 as an incurable mental illness. After, further study this diagnosis was modified in 1990. It was determined that NPD could be cured with intensive psychological therapies, but if left untreated NPD would progress to Malignant Narcissism (MN), for which there is no cure. This has been the experts opinion for almost 30 years, and yet no one seems willing to place NPD as the root cause of Alcoholism and most other addictions.

Change Dis-Empowering Beliefs

It’s the intent of this Website, to try to change the misconceptions we have about addiction and other dis-empowering beliefs that hold us back from dreaming.

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave






The Cause of Addictions; The Bondage of Self

It Starts with your Beliefs

Depending on how functional or dysfunctional our childhoods where, we all develop some Narcissistic Beliefs, looking at the world from a me first perspective. If these beliefs are of an Ancillary nature, than most of us grow out of this form of Early Narcissism. But if the Narcissistic Beliefs are of a Fundamental nature, where we perceive the Universe outside ourselves as dangerous, hostile, confusing and un-nurturing, than the Narcissistic thinking becomes a habit and eventually starts to infect other fundamental aspects of our belief systems.

The Habitual Mind Takes your Beliefs and

If you are filled with anxiety, anger, depression, irritability and discontent and are having problems, forming normal fulfilling relationships, and have also developed an addiction to something, you might want to look at your belief systems. The Habitual Mind is hardwired to see only what it believes. The UN-Conscious mind is working 24/7 to manifest these beliefs into your life. It’s constantly looking, non-stop for validation, association and comparisons, that support the beliefs it holds. It does this year after year, for decades slowly grinding down our self-worth, self-confidence and self-trust.

As we internalize these dis-empowering beliefs we start to develop an emotional dependence upon them rather than becoming independent of them. We begin to believe that the world revolves us and we start to become trapped in the  “bondage of self”. If this is allowed to happen, than the Early Narcissism evolves into a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). We unconsciously, internalized these dis-empowering beliefs, and without being aware of it, we pass them on to those around us. Some of the most obvious dis-empowering beliefs are.

  • That we have the power to control how others feel, this in turn reinforces the fear of rejection and disapproval we have towards others. Because of these fears, honesty usually takes a back seat to pleasing. We avoid dealing with conflicts and have problems forming true connections through intimacy or any real genuine feelings of love.
  • That rules are more important than our needs or people. Putting rules ahead of people and ourselves, elevates the importance of obedience and compliance, this leads to an over all lack of empathy, especially if you v’e broken any rules.

Our Beliefs Become Us

Once these beliefs are established, we become oblivious to them, if challenged we either are unwilling or unable to suffer the pain of even acknowledging, much less changing them. How can we give up our personality, these well-established patterns of behavior, developed over a lifetime. If anyone thinks they can’t, I’m here to tell you anyone can, if they are willing to do the work.

You Can Change Your Beliefs

It takes more than a desire, to change, it takes a strong will and the ability to take action. But if the pain of not changing has become strong enough, than there are resources, available to show anyone how.

  • First, we must realize how unmanageable our thinking has become.
  • Second, we must understand that our lives are the effects of that thinking, not the cause.
  • Third, that we have never been the victim.
  • Fourth,everything that has happened, needed to happen, to get us here.
  • Fifth, our character defects are only our beliefs in action.
  • Sixth, list out the defects in order of importance. It’s by looking at our character defects that we can begin to change.
  • Seven, pick a behavior and the dis-empowering belief behind it and stop doing it.

Change Them One At A Time

Remain aware of it and focus on it until it’s removed, than go to the next. A wholesale onslaught of all your defects will only lead you feeling overwhelmed and eventually so frustrated you’ll give up. Taking them one by one and watching how your life starts to change, will only encourage you to continue.

Because You Know You Don’t Know

Because we are willing to admit, that something is wrong with our thinking, there is still hope at affecting change, either individually or with group therapy. Experts agree, that Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a progressive mental illness. If left untreated it will progress into a more malevolent, vindictive and vengeful stage known as Malignant Narcissism, for which there is no cure. What they seem unwilling to agree upon is that NPD is much more common in society, and as I maintain, the root of almost all addictions.

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave









I Was a Dry Drunk

Recovering from Addiction is easy, just quit, its how a majority of people do it. Of the estimated 14 million adult Americans who are deemed Alcoholic, less then 10 percent of them will be seeking help at any given time. Of those 10 percent, 70 percent won’t achieve lasting sobriety. Seventy percent of those who achieve sobriety in A.A. will relapse in five years. The relapse rate for one year are even higher. With this being said its safe to say that there are a lot of Dry Drunks walking among us, and for ten years I was one of them,. I want to tell you what that experience taught me.

What is a Dry Drunk

In doing research for this article I was struck about what I found when I Googled, Dry Drunk, every entry on the first page of Google was written by a Treatment Center, and I found the information to be either misleading, confusing or just plain wrong. In a lot of cases they just describe the symptoms that cause people to seek relief in the first place. A rehash of the reasons a person is driven to drink, not an explanation of what a Dry Drunk is. And in every post there is the underlying suspicion that what the article’s real intent is to sell you something.

So let me make this simple for everybody, a Dry Drunk is a person who attempts to get and stay sober without the help of a program. A “lone wolf”, convinced that a program has nothing to offer and that through sheer self will alone, they can beat this affliction of Mind and Body, commonly called an Addiction. That’s why you see a majority of people who have quit on their own and are supposedly “sober” are still not happy or satisfied with their lives. They are under the illusion, that just quitting their drug of choice is sufficient for recovery from a hopeless state of mind and body. Because they don’t know what they don’t know, they are unaware that the drug only masks, the real problem.

Thinking and Behaving Alcoholically without Drinking

Not being able to understand specifically, the first three steps of the 12 Step program, I decided that I could be a lone wolf and recover on my own. Though my life got better on a materialistic level, I didn’t get better. As a matter of fact, mentally and spiritually I got worse. I remained stuck in the “Bondage of Self”. Even without using, my drug of choice, I was constantly finding myself thinking and behaving alcoholically.

Simply quitting without looking into the causes of why your an Addict, is like an Ostrich burying its head in the sand, it might make you feel better, but its going to help you. At this point I didn’t even have a concept of the term “Bondage of Self”, and that’s a real big problem.

Recovery takes work

If your convinced you want to recover on your own, that’s fine millions have done it. We are all alone with our thoughts, and it’s by going inside your thoughts, that you can begin to fix, why you think the way you do. A.A. stresses that recovery is outside ourselves, that we are powerless, and that only through turning our life and our will over to a Higher Power can we hope to be healed. Lack of Power was my dilemma, and as long as I continued to believe in powerlessness I would be powerless. Our lives are the effect of our thinking, we must go inside, not outside ourselves. For its the beliefs, we hold inside, that have created our life outside.

You need to start your journey, for long term recovery and sobriety, by doing more than just quitting the drug. We need to get into the causes. Today its easier than its ever been to find people that have made the journey your embarking on. Realizing that our journey is not unique and that there are many ways in which you can reach our destination. But the journey, to any destination, takes action.

What Happens if you Do No Work

When I quit, I thought, that would be enough. What I found instead was that my dis-empowering beliefs only used my quitting to become stronger. Where I had been critical and judgmental of others who didn’t drink like me before, well now it included everyone. Looking down my nose, with contempt and disdain, “look I quit, why can’t you?”. Constantly watching each and every drink anyone took, sensitive to the slightest change in personality, judging peoples outsides by my insides. Feeling angry but superior at the same time.

Everyone of my character defects were being reinforced by my abstention. I developed a whole new level of martyrdom. Instead of feeling “less than” I constantly felt “more than”. Hyper sensitive and critical at the same time. Impatient with others, constantly complaining and lying the whole time about how I really felt. These habitual thoughts became my constant companions and I almost came to welcome them, like old friends.

Recovery Based on an Illusion

Unfocused will power is as damaging as no will power. To live in the “Bondage of Self” constantly feeding and congratulating my ego (my false self) about how strong and superior I was, to be able to quit on my own, with no help and without doing any work. A recovery based on illusion.

Living in this illusion for years, eventually lead to the creation of another illusion. Slowly with the help of my ego I began to convince my unconscious mind that I wasn’t even an Addict. That it had all been a mistake. Because of my unwillingness to do any work, to even attempt to look for the root causes of my irritability and discontent, my recovery was based on a foundation of sand.

How Much Work Does it Take

In the 30s low bottom drunks were taken through the steps in a matter of days, today that would seem to be impossible. The reason I bring this up, is that the work, of uncovering the root causes, of an addiction, don’t have to take a lifetime. Finding quality sobriety doesn’t have to entail going to meetings for the rest of your life. What it does entail, is a willingness to understand that its our beliefs about the Universe and ourselves, that are the root cause of our thinking. It’s empowering to believe we have the capacity to become unconsciously competent, to have the ability, to know what we know. To believe differently is dis-empowering, and creates a lack of power.

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

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Recovering from Addiction

The Three Stages of Learning

  1. Unconsciously Incompetent; Don’t know what we don’t know
  2. Consciously Incompetent; Know we don’t know
  3. Unconsciously Competent; Know we know

These three stages coincide perfectly with three stages of Addiction

  1. Active Addiction; To be in your Addiction, where you don’t know, what you don’t know. Oblivious of what’s happening, totally convinced that everyone drinks the way you drink.
  2. In-Recovery; Know we don’t know, Only once the pain becomes greater than the pleasure do we even consider the possibility of quitting. We understand the concept of powerlessness over our drug of choice, but struggle with the idea of our lives being unmanageable, especially if we still have a job, a wife and a house. We know something is wrong but don’t know how to fix it.
  3. Recovered; Know we know, we understand the reasons behind the Addition and the compulsion to use has been lifted.

In AA circles it’s frowned upon to say your recovered, when introducing yourself, as if it’s presumptuous to think you can ever recover. They assume everybody is stuck in the consciously incompetent stage of learning and that to know you know, why you became an addict is out of reach. This is very dis-empowering.

A Journey with No Destination

To begin a journey of recovery with no destination, no possibility of reaching the end, is to be left constantly searching. Your criticized if you act as if your tiring, or complain about the journey with no end. After a while you begin to wonder if this is a journey you want to take.

It’s natural and Human to think that a destination is not only possible but probable. A journey with not destination makes no sense. While you may enjoy the journey it’s in reaching your destination, that is cause for celebration You rejoice in reaching your goal and look forward to the next journey.

Recovery should feel like a journey of enlightenment, a joyful adventure, taking with others, that reaches it’s desired goal. Not a lifelong “trudge” to a nebulous and vague happy destiny.

It’s an Insult

I believe we are designed to be able to reach the third level of learning. To know we know, the reasons behind our addictions. That our Minds designed in the likeness of our creator has the power to find the answer to any riddle. To not believe this is to hold a dis-empowering belief about the capabilities God gave us. And an insult to the one that made us.

Solving the Riddle

Man is slowly solving the Riddles of the Universe. Great thinkers and Philosophers through the ages keep repeating one constant theme, and that is, Mans ability to Manifest in the Universe anything he desires, as long as he truly believes. In order for this to happen he first has to believe he is deserving. So many of us fail to manifest a life we have dream t about because we believe what somebody told us, instead of what history has shown us. Either intentionally or unintentionally we are told that we are either not good enough, or smart enough or deserving enough, to manifest our dreams. Because we believed these people and trusted them, and saw it in their lives, we came to believe it. How can anyone designed in the Image of our creator be undeserving?

In addition to believing that we are deserving, we also must believe that the Universe will provide. We must believe in an abundant Universe, designed for one purpose, to grow man. The Universe just like a fertile field has no choice in what it will or will not grow. The Universe knows nothing about scarcity, it provides in abundance whatever we plant. So even a person who believes they are deserving but plants only negativity and disharmony, will reap it in abundance. It’s the Law of Nature, you reap what you sow.

And finally we need and understanding of our Free Will and the Will of God. We have the freedom to believe whatever we choose to believe. We were not designed to be robots. To believe anything that dis-empowers man is not the correct use of our will. As far as God’s Will for Man, if he designed us in his image, and placed us in a Universe perfectly designed to Grow man, then it only follows that his Will for us is to be happy and prosper. God only sees good, if bad exists it because good, didn’t believe it was good.

It Comes Down To Your Beliefs

It all comes down to our beliefs. The more we focus on the dis-empowering aspects of how we got them, or who’s responsible the more strength we give them. What’s important is the realization that those beliefs are there and that they are not serving us. We must Learn what our true beliefs are. We must know we know that our beliefs are based on empowering principals, and once we know that, we are ready to embark on a new journey.

It’s dis-empowering to believe that we can never know. Life is a journey and to be considered a journey must have a destination, without one it’s only a wandering. Nobody ever said “enjoy wandering”. With beliefs firmly established in empowering principals we begin to realize, that everything that has happened on our journey we call life, needed to happen in order for us to get here. What do you want for your next destination?

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave






Addiction is a Mental Illness

It Starts with a Belief

Ever wonder why your addicted. Stop focusing on the behaviors and start looking at the causes. The cause for all our behaviors are our beliefs. Beliefs you might not even realize you have.

Then a Behavior

Insanity is engaging in the same behavior, and expecting a different result. Your a complainer because sub-consciously you believe that complaining helps solve problems. You criticize because sub-consciously you believe it makes you feel better about yourself. Your impatient because you believe that being impatient resolves issues quicker. Your dis-empowering beliefs are the cause, and your unmanageable life is the effect. Your irritable and discontent because of this feeling of un-manageability and you seek relief.

That Makes You Miserable

Anything that will help you forget, even for a little while, this feeling, of being discontented with self. Always thinking about me, me, me. This belief that the world revolves around us, creates an endless need to be accepted and cared for by others. In more severe it can cause us to feel that we are not lovable or valuable and that we don’t really belong. We don’t feel safe being our authentic self, so we create a false self, and the fear of this false self being found out, leads to more and more elaborate lies and myth building about who we really are

It Gets Worse

As, we work harder to sustain these myths we become neurotic about being found out. This neurosis further helps establish the dis-empowering beliefs systems with regard to how we interact with the world. So in addition to being a critical, impatient, complainer we become arrogant, bossy, aggressive. We know the innate truth and it makes us angry, and discontent.

As we live with these dis-empowering beliefs, as we continue to dishonor ourselves, and permit others to dishonor us, our unexpressed anger grows. As this anger grows, eventually it explodes, usually over a minor thing, and we lash out, hurting our loved ones causing remorse or we implode, getting angry with ourselves, causing depression, or we do both. We are taught to lie in order to belong. We learn to pretend, to be different from who we actually are, to fit in, belong, to feel safe, to survive, it’s all a lie. Adults talk about being honest, and we see them lie all the time.

We Deny It

We learn denial, the ability to distract ourselves and shut down what we need and want. We deny what we observe or know to be true about others. We create fantasies of how we wish things could be, at the same time making excuses, to do nothing that would change the situation. The more we deny the less we heal, the more we lie to ourselves, the further we get from our true selves. Honesty becomes our biggest challenge.

The Way Out

In order to break ” the bondage of self “, we have to start at our spiritual center. We have to examine our belief about the Universe. The belief that the Universe is evil is a lie. We must realize that there is no such thing as evil. That it is only wrong thinking that leads to evil. We were made in the image of our Creator and his will for us is to be happy and prosper. The Universe was created specially to grow man. And like the soil will grow whatever is planted, it’s neutral, it only grows. If, we continue to plant dis-empowering beliefs we shouldn’t be surprised what we reap a lack of power in our lives. It’s simple cause and effect.

12 Steps

The 12 Step program of recovery has been around since the 30s. Following the steps allows a transmutation to occur in your thinking. You come to the realization that instead of being the victim in your life, you can be the hero, and it’s simply a choice, that you can make.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder

A Narcissistic Personality Disorder creates a belief system that only sees the world through the eyes of your ego. It creates a reality based on lies, which leaves us feeling isolated and alone. The feelings of irritability and discontent are the effects of Narcissistic thinking. The main problem with the Narcissist is that they are trapped in the bondage of self. It’s my BELIEF that Narcissistic Personality Disorder is not the rare psychological condition that some would like us to believe, but that it’s the root cause of most additions today.

I Know What I Know

According to Martha Beck in her book ” Finding Your Way in a Wild New World”, in order to be a genius at anything, it takes 10,000 hours of deep practice. Following that criteria then I’m a genius when it comes to Alcoholism. I’ve earned my seat and I know what I know. Today I’m more convinced the ever, that lurking beneath every addiction is a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. When we start addressing this Disorder head on, is when we will start seeing recovery rates climb.

Another Lie

To say that this condition is rare and that people can’t recover from a seemingly hopeless case of mind and body, is to nurture a dis-empowering belief, usually for financial gain.

As always, thanks for visiting, Dave

Baby Boomers get Smarter as they age

Most Baby Boomers have an irrational fear of Dementia, most of us would be devastated to find even mild Brain damage, thinking it as a harbinger of Alzheimers Disease.

Why we Don’t Scan the Brain

Why has the Medical Establishment promoted Colonoscopy and Prostate testing, while ignoring Brain Scans? Especially when you consider that Brain Scans are much less invasive to the body and that incidences of Dementia rivals and often exceeds the incidences of these other afflictions.

  1. The first dis-empowering belief is a hold over of the old Cartesian Mind-Body Dualism Theory, that the Mind is not of the Body.
  2. The other dis-empowering belief that is still prevalent, that nothing could be done if a problem was found.

Both these beliefs are wrong, Medicine has refuted the Cartesian Theory, proving that the Mind is of the Brain, and thus of the body, and with the recent and rapid advent of various pharmacological and non pharmacological ways of treating and protecting the Brain against decay, the idea that nothing can be done, is also false.

Neurotic Fear of Aging

I believe that it’s Neurotic response to aging. There is a Denial and even a refusal, to even consider, that anything could be wrong. This anxiety is especially keen with Baby Boomers, who are being constantly bombarded with the Medias preoccupation with so called Alzheimer Epidemic.

Another dis-empowering belief that has gained traction is that we are doomed, and that our Minds become weaker and slower, as we age, and that decreased Brain function is not only probable but inevitable. This kinda of Group Think is wrong and needs to be replaced with a more empowering and accurate belief. While it’s true that our Minds change as we age, it’s become the opinion of many, that this change is for the better and not the worst.

The Wisdom Paradox

Elkhonen Goldberg, in his book “The Wisdom Paradox; How our mind can grow stronger as your brain grows older”, goes into great detail about the Brain and it’s relationship with the Mind. This world-renowned neuropsychologist, in lively and very accessible prose, outlines how the elegant structure of our brains develop and change over the course of a lifetime.

He talks about how, as we age we develop a “cognitive expertise”, a gradual transition from “hardwired” to a more open-ended, open-minded design. This design gives Boomers, the neural capacity for processing complexity of any kind and filling it with content. We recognize this as expertise.

He goes on to say,that this seemingly effortless ability to “see through things”, and that depending on the context and complexity is seen as competence and in rare cases wisdom. He states, ” that this ability does not come by itself as an epiphany of maturity, or as an entitlement to old age, but is the condensation of mental activities across years and decades of life”.

The scope and quality of ones mental lifetime, shapes the quality of its final stages. The importance of working the Mind especially once we reach our sixties can’t be over stated. To just turn off and enter a period of repeated “groundhog days”,watching TV and going to Dr. appointments, is doing a disservice to yourself and world.

Wisdom Begins in Wonder

The quote above by Socrates is more true today than ever. Regardless of age one must continue to test ones mind, and strive for new mental challenges. You’ve spent a lifetime building a social network. Sometimes by accident of birth and place of residence and sometimes on purpose making friends and business contacts. So many people today go to their deaths never utilizing the network they spent a lifetime building. So many people, sit around worrying that their going to outlive their money, and all the bad things that are going to befall them. Without ever realizing that they have a large untapped social network, that could be monetized, if only they could tap into it some way.

A Thinkers High

Many of us have heard of a “runners high”, well if you strive for new mental challenges, opportunities, or goals no matter your age you could experience a ” thinkers high”. A flash of cognitive expertise when you go Aha! “this is just like that”.

What if there was a company, that provided any person (novice or expert), the tools, to used to promote any product, and teaches you how to do it, for free. You don’t have to make sales calls, distribute products or do any customer support. Everything is handled for you. It’s proven to be a great source of income for thousands and could be a second stream of income for you. Or even just a chance to do something and build something to help others. What if that were possible? To be able to offer your network, a product that could help them, and at the same time help you, stop worrying about outliving your money? If you’ve been looking for a way to help others while helping yourself check this out.

And as always, thanks for visiting, Dave







Watch what you Believe

Did you believe these lies?

  • You can see the Great Wall of China from space
  • older elephants near death don’t go off searching for the elephant graveyard
  • Bulls are not enraged by the color red.
  • Dogs don’t sweat by salivating.
  • Lemmings don’t engage in mass suicide
  • Bats are not blind
  • Ostriches don’t stick their head in the sand when frightened
  • Earthworms don’t become two when cut in half
  • House flies live 20 to 30 days not 24 hours
  • Poinsettias are not toxic to humans or cats
  • Computers running Mac are not immune to malware
  • Waking sleepwalkers doesn’t harm them
  • Eating less than an hour before swimming doesn’t increase your chances of drowning
  • Shaving doesn’t cause hair to grow back thicker
  • Hair and nails don’t continue to grow after death
  • Sugar does not cause hyperactivity
  • Alcohol does not kill brain cells
  • Obesity is not related to a slower metabolism
  • Sex before a sporting event is not detrimental to performance
  • Vaccines do not cause autism
  • People do not use only 10% of their brain
  • Stress plays a minor role in hypertension
  • Diamonds are not formed from compressed coal


A lot of what we believe is wrong, especially when it comes to ourselves

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave




Can Baby Boomers Change their Beliefs?

It’s Time to Re-evaluate

Once you reach a certain age it’s natural to go through a period of re-evaluation. We look back and wonder how’d I get here, and now that I’m here where am I going? I’ve been doing a lot of reading lately in a book be Ernest Holmes, “The Science of the Mind”, I came across the term “cause and effect”, Holmes basically said that the” cause” is our thoughts and the “effect” is our life. Digging deeper my thoughts were only the effects of my beliefs. If you dissatisfied with the life you have, it’s because of the beliefs you hold. It became clear to me that if I wanted to change my life I had to start with my beliefs. This has turned out to be easier said than done.

If I really wanted to change these beliefs, I had to find out where they have been hiding. As I started to research this, I’ve come to find that there is a lot of differing opinions about our Minds and how it works and that this debate has been the subject of Philosophers for ever, and our understanding of what Consciousness is still just now being understood. I’m going to try to summarize what I’ve come up with, and see if this makes any sense to you.

Where are our Beliefs Held?

Most “experts” agree that the mind is basically divided into two parts, This Duelists approach see the mind having an unconscious subjective side and a conscious objective side. Now to complicate this debate physicists have come to believe that the Universe, matter as we know it, is really just energy, each element vibrating at different frequencies, these vibrations are received in the Mind thru neutral receptors and arranged into intelligent formations. These formations are our perceptions and they are stored in the mind. These perceptions are stored in the mind first in the part of the mind concerned with the now( the conscious side) and later moved to (the unconscious side) that is concerned with the past.

The experts theorize that the unconscious part of the mind takes up 87% of available capacity. What’s interesting about this subjective part of the mind is that it’s not interested if a thought is true or false, it’s just there. The conscious side of the mind the objective side being a lot smaller doesn’t have the room to store all this information. so once a thought is perceived in the conscious mind it goes through a process of reticular activation, where the mind works 24/7 looking for examples to either support or deny the validity of the thought. Depending on the input it forms patterns of formation which in turn become habits and beliefs and eventually they are moved to the unconscious to make room for things in the now. Once a habit or belief is moved to the subjective side of the mind it’s no longer concerned if it’s true of false it just is.

How Beliefs are Formed

To give you an example of this process, say your a young child between the age of birth to 8 years old, and your conscious mind sees a situation where complaining works to get what someone wants. Through the process of reticular activation the mind starts looking for patterns to prove and reaffirm what the conscious mind saw. If the child s environment is filled with a lot of complaining this thought pattern (complaining works) becomes a habitual thought and eventually a belief, and gets filed away in the memory of the subjective mind, which is not concerned whether it’s true or not. The child is totally unconscious of this happening. But the habit of complaining about things is now a part of his behavior, because subconsciously he believes it works.

Fundamental and Ancillary Beliefs

We form beliefs about everything, it’s important to recognize that It’s the scope of the belief that’s important Is it a fundamental belief or an ancillary belief? There is a big difference in believing Lima beans are bad (ancillary belief) versus believing vegetables are bad (fundamental belief) It’s possible to have a good life with some dis-empowering beliefs as long as they are ancillary beliefs. It’s even possible to have a good life if some of your dis-empowering beliefs are fundamental as long as they are balanced with some powerful fundamental beliefs

. Another example, there is a big difference in believing a certain man can’t be trusted versus believing people can’t be trusted. This person may attain an overall sense of belonging and even a sort of happiness dealing with others but the chances of this person having a happy life are highly reduced simply because of this one belief. Look at the difference, believing I can’t change versus people don’t change easily, would have on a person. They would have no problem in believing others could change but when it came to them personally they would constantly be presented with situations that would reinforce their belief that they can’t change. When challenged, that they are resistant to change, they will hide behind a mask and lie saying that’s not true, when in reality they subconsciously believe it.

We Can Change

The good news is that we can change, and it starts with awareness. Realizing that it’s the dis-empowering beliefs that are the cause. The neutral universe will only grow what is planted no more no less. Think back to a time when you only had a phone in your house and if you weren’t home you missed the call. Remember when the first message machines came out and we could review the call we had missed. And now think what you would do if you left your cell phone at home.

The Mind of God

mind of God, which is in us all, takes the beliefs we hold and
manifest’s them into our lives., Medicine can’t explain it but
spiritualists down through the ages have spoken about it, written about
it and have believed in it. You can choose to believe it or not it’s
your choice. Long term personal growth must include the encouragement to
think for ourselves, challenge long held beliefs that haven’t served us
and establish new beliefs. I believe we are our own Higher Power, the
kingdom of heaven lies within us. Jesus, Buddha, Mohammad and Allah they
all lie within us. They are all actually aspects of us. We have it in
ourselves to create the world of our dreams. Fear (ego) is terrified
that we might learn this and continues to tell us that our nature is
sinful. By keeping us focused on the outside we never connect with our
inside, our Higher Self.

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave









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