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The Three Stages of Learning

  1. Unconsciously Incompetent; Don’t know what we don’t know
  2. Consciously Incompetent; Know we don’t know
  3. Unconsciously Competent; Know we know

These three stages coincide perfectly with three stages of Addiction

  1. Active Addiction; To be in your Addiction, where you don’t know, what you don’t know. Oblivious of what’s happening, totally convinced that everyone drinks the way you drink.
  2. In-Recovery; Know we don’t know, Only once the pain becomes greater than the pleasure do we even consider the possibility of quitting. We understand the concept of powerlessness over our drug of choice, but struggle with the idea of our lives being unmanageable, especially if we still have a job, a wife and a house. We know something is wrong but don’t know how to fix it.
  3. Recovered; Know we know, we understand the reasons behind the Addition and the compulsion to use has been lifted.

In AA circles it’s frowned upon to say your recovered, when introducing yourself, as if it’s presumptuous to think you can ever recover. They assume everybody is stuck in the consciously incompetent stage of learning and that to know you know, why you became an addict is out of reach. This is very dis-empowering.

A Journey with No Destination

To begin a journey of recovery with no destination, no possibility of reaching the end, is to be left constantly searching. Your criticized if you act as if your tiring, or complain about the journey with no end. After a while you begin to wonder if this is a journey you want to take.

It’s natural and Human to think that a destination is not only possible but probable. A journey with not destination makes no sense. While you may enjoy the journey it’s in reaching your destination, that is cause for celebration You rejoice in reaching your goal and look forward to the next journey.

Recovery should feel like a journey of enlightenment, a joyful adventure, taking with others, that reaches it’s desired goal. Not a lifelong “trudge” to a nebulous and vague happy destiny.

It’s an Insult

I believe we are designed to be able to reach the third level of learning. To know we know, the reasons behind our addictions. That our Minds designed in the likeness of our creator has the power to find the answer to any riddle. To not believe this is to hold a dis-empowering belief about the capabilities God gave us. And an insult to the one that made us.

Solving the Riddle

Man is slowly solving the Riddles of the Universe. Great thinkers and Philosophers through the ages keep repeating one constant theme, and that is, Mans ability to Manifest in the Universe anything he desires, as long as he truly believes. In order for this to happen he first has to believe he is deserving. So many of us fail to manifest a life we have dream t about because we believe what somebody told us, instead of what history has shown us. Either intentionally or unintentionally we are told that we are either not good enough, or smart enough or deserving enough, to manifest our dreams. Because we believed these people and trusted them, and saw it in their lives, we came to believe it. How can anyone designed in the Image of our creator be undeserving?

In addition to believing that we are deserving, we also must believe that the Universe will provide. We must believe in an abundant Universe, designed for one purpose, to grow man. The Universe just like a fertile field has no choice in what it will or will not grow. The Universe knows nothing about scarcity, it provides in abundance whatever we plant. So even a person who believes they are deserving but plants only negativity and disharmony, will reap it in abundance. It’s the Law of Nature, you reap what you sow.

And finally we need and understanding of our Free Will and the Will of God. We have the freedom to believe whatever we choose to believe. We were not designed to be robots. To believe anything that dis-empowers man is not the correct use of our will. As far as God’s Will for Man, if he designed us in his image, and placed us in a Universe perfectly designed to Grow man, then it only follows that his Will for us is to be happy and prosper. God only sees good, if bad exists it because good, didn’t believe it was good.

It Comes Down To Your Beliefs

It all comes down to our beliefs. The more we focus on the dis-empowering aspects of how we got them, or who’s responsible the more strength we give them. What’s important is the realization that those beliefs are there and that they are not serving us. We must Learn what our true beliefs are. We must know we know that our beliefs are based on empowering principals, and once we know that, we are ready to embark on a new journey.

It’s dis-empowering to believe that we can never know. Life is a journey and to be considered a journey must have a destination, without one it’s only a wandering. Nobody ever said “enjoy wandering”. With beliefs firmly established in empowering principals we begin to realize, that everything that has happened on our journey we call life, needed to happen in order for us to get here. What do you want for your next destination?

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

 

 

 

 

 

Addiction is a Mental Illness

It Starts with a Belief

Ever wonder why your addicted. Stop focusing on the behaviors and start looking at the causes. The cause for all our behaviors are our beliefs. Beliefs you might not even realize you have.

Then a Behavior

Insanity is engaging in the same behavior, and expecting a different result. Your a complainer because sub-consciously you believe that complaining helps solve problems. You criticize because sub-consciously you believe it makes you feel better about yourself. Your impatient because you believe that being impatient resolves issues quicker. Your dis-empowering beliefs are the cause, and your unmanageable life is the effect. Your irritable and discontent because of this feeling of un-manageability and you seek relief.

That Makes You Miserable

Anything that will help you forget, even for a little while, this feeling, of being discontented with self. Always thinking about me, me, me. This belief that the world revolves around us, creates an endless need to be accepted and cared for by others. In more severe it can cause us to feel that we are not lovable or valuable and that we don’t really belong. We don’t feel safe being our authentic self, so we create a false self, and the fear of this false self being found out, leads to more and more elaborate lies and myth building about who we really are

It Gets Worse

As, we work harder to sustain these myths we become neurotic about being found out. This neurosis further helps establish the dis-empowering beliefs systems with regard to how we interact with the world. So in addition to being a critical, impatient, complainer we become arrogant, bossy, aggressive. We know the innate truth and it makes us angry, and discontent.

As we live with these dis-empowering beliefs, as we continue to dishonor ourselves, and permit others to dishonor us, our unexpressed anger grows. As this anger grows, eventually it explodes, usually over a minor thing, and we lash out, hurting our loved ones causing remorse or we implode, getting angry with ourselves, causing depression, or we do both. We are taught to lie in order to belong. We learn to pretend, to be different from who we actually are, to fit in, belong, to feel safe, to survive, it’s all a lie. Adults talk about being honest, and we see them lie all the time.

We Deny It

We learn denial, the ability to distract ourselves and shut down what we need and want. We deny what we observe or know to be true about others. We create fantasies of how we wish things could be, at the same time making excuses, to do nothing that would change the situation. The more we deny the less we heal, the more we lie to ourselves, the further we get from our true selves. Honesty becomes our biggest challenge.

The Way Out

In order to break ” the bondage of self “, we have to start at our spiritual center. We have to examine our belief about the Universe. The belief that the Universe is evil is a lie. We must realize that there is no such thing as evil. That it is only wrong thinking that leads to evil. We were made in the image of our Creator and his will for us is to be happy and prosper. The Universe was created specially to grow man. And like the soil will grow whatever is planted, it’s neutral, it only grows. If, we continue to plant dis-empowering beliefs we shouldn’t be surprised what we reap a lack of power in our lives. It’s simple cause and effect.

12 Steps

The 12 Step program of recovery has been around since the 30s. Following the steps allows a transmutation to occur in your thinking. You come to the realization that instead of being the victim in your life, you can be the hero, and it’s simply a choice, that you can make.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder

A Narcissistic Personality Disorder creates a belief system that only sees the world through the eyes of your ego. It creates a reality based on lies, which leaves us feeling isolated and alone. The feelings of irritability and discontent are the effects of Narcissistic thinking. The main problem with the Narcissist is that they are trapped in the bondage of self. It’s my BELIEF that Narcissistic Personality Disorder is not the rare psychological condition that some would like us to believe, but that it’s the root cause of most additions today.

I Know What I Know

According to Martha Beck in her book ” Finding Your Way in a Wild New World”, in order to be a genius at anything, it takes 10,000 hours of deep practice. Following that criteria then I’m a genius when it comes to Alcoholism. I’ve earned my seat and I know what I know. Today I’m more convinced the ever, that lurking beneath every addiction is a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. When we start addressing this Disorder head on, is when we will start seeing recovery rates climb.

Another Lie

To say that this condition is rare and that people can’t recover from a seemingly hopeless case of mind and body, is to nurture a dis-empowering belief, usually for financial gain.

As always, thanks for visiting, Dave

Baby Boomers get Smarter as they age

Most Baby Boomers have an irrational fear of Dementia, most of us would be devastated to find even mild Brain damage, thinking it as a harbinger of Alzheimers Disease.

Why we Don’t Scan the Brain

Why has the Medical Establishment promoted Colonoscopy and Prostate testing, while ignoring Brain Scans? Especially when you consider that Brain Scans are much less invasive to the body and that incidences of Dementia rivals and often exceeds the incidences of these other afflictions.

  1. The first dis-empowering belief is a hold over of the old Cartesian Mind-Body Dualism Theory, that the Mind is not of the Body.
  2. The other dis-empowering belief that is still prevalent, that nothing could be done if a problem was found.

Both these beliefs are wrong, Medicine has refuted the Cartesian Theory, proving that the Mind is of the Brain, and thus of the body, and with the recent and rapid advent of various pharmacological and non pharmacological ways of treating and protecting the Brain against decay, the idea that nothing can be done, is also false.

Neurotic Fear of Aging

I believe that it’s Neurotic response to aging. There is a Denial and even a refusal, to even consider, that anything could be wrong. This anxiety is especially keen with Baby Boomers, who are being constantly bombarded with the Medias preoccupation with so called Alzheimer Epidemic.

Another dis-empowering belief that has gained traction is that we are doomed, and that our Minds become weaker and slower, as we age, and that decreased Brain function is not only probable but inevitable. This kinda of Group Think is wrong and needs to be replaced with a more empowering and accurate belief. While it’s true that our Minds change as we age, it’s become the opinion of many, that this change is for the better and not the worst.

The Wisdom Paradox

Elkhonen Goldberg, in his book “The Wisdom Paradox; How our mind can grow stronger as your brain grows older”, goes into great detail about the Brain and it’s relationship with the Mind. This world-renowned neuropsychologist, in lively and very accessible prose, outlines how the elegant structure of our brains develop and change over the course of a lifetime.

He talks about how, as we age we develop a “cognitive expertise”, a gradual transition from “hardwired” to a more open-ended, open-minded design. This design gives Boomers, the neural capacity for processing complexity of any kind and filling it with content. We recognize this as expertise.

He goes on to say,that this seemingly effortless ability to “see through things”, and that depending on the context and complexity is seen as competence and in rare cases wisdom. He states, ” that this ability does not come by itself as an epiphany of maturity, or as an entitlement to old age, but is the condensation of mental activities across years and decades of life”.

The scope and quality of ones mental lifetime, shapes the quality of its final stages. The importance of working the Mind especially once we reach our sixties can’t be over stated. To just turn off and enter a period of repeated “groundhog days”,watching TV and going to Dr. appointments, is doing a disservice to yourself and world.

Wisdom Begins in Wonder

The quote above by Socrates is more true today than ever. Regardless of age one must continue to test ones mind, and strive for new mental challenges. You’ve spent a lifetime building a social network. Sometimes by accident of birth and place of residence and sometimes on purpose making friends and business contacts. So many people today go to their deaths never utilizing the network they spent a lifetime building. So many people, sit around worrying that their going to outlive their money, and all the bad things that are going to befall them. Without ever realizing that they have a large untapped social network, that could be monetized, if only they could tap into it some way.

A Thinkers High

Many of us have heard of a “runners high”, well if you strive for new mental challenges, opportunities, or goals no matter your age you could experience a ” thinkers high”. A flash of cognitive expertise when you go Aha! “this is just like that”.

What if there was a company, that provided any person (novice or expert), the tools, to used to promote any product, and teaches you how to do it, for free. You don’t have to make sales calls, distribute products or do any customer support. Everything is handled for you. It’s proven to be a great source of income for thousands and could be a second stream of income for you. Or even just a chance to do something and build something to help others. What if that were possible? To be able to offer your network, a product that could help them, and at the same time help you, stop worrying about outliving your money? If you’ve been looking for a way to help others while helping yourself check this out.https://www.wealthyaffiliate.com?a_aid=e78a81fe

And as always, thanks for visiting, Dave

 

 

 

 

 

 

Watch what you Believe

Did you believe these lies?

  • You can see the Great Wall of China from space
  • older elephants near death don’t go off searching for the elephant graveyard
  • Bulls are not enraged by the color red.
  • Dogs don’t sweat by salivating.
  • Lemmings don’t engage in mass suicide
  • Bats are not blind
  • Ostriches don’t stick their head in the sand when frightened
  • Earthworms don’t become two when cut in half
  • House flies live 20 to 30 days not 24 hours
  • Poinsettias are not toxic to humans or cats
  • Computers running Mac are not immune to malware
  • Waking sleepwalkers doesn’t harm them
  • Eating less than an hour before swimming doesn’t increase your chances of drowning
  • Shaving doesn’t cause hair to grow back thicker
  • Hair and nails don’t continue to grow after death
  • Sugar does not cause hyperactivity
  • Alcohol does not kill brain cells
  • Obesity is not related to a slower metabolism
  • Sex before a sporting event is not detrimental to performance
  • Vaccines do not cause autism
  • People do not use only 10% of their brain
  • Stress plays a minor role in hypertension
  • Diamonds are not formed from compressed coal

Conclusion

A lot of what we believe is wrong, especially when it comes to ourselves

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

 

 

 

Can Baby Boomers Change their Beliefs?

It’s Time to Re-evaluate

Once you reach a certain age it’s natural to go through a period of re-evaluation. We look back and wonder how’d I get here, and now that I’m here where am I going? I’ve been doing a lot of reading lately in a book be Ernest Holmes, “The Science of the Mind”, I came across the term “cause and effect”, Holmes basically said that the” cause” is our thoughts and the “effect” is our life. Digging deeper my thoughts were only the effects of my beliefs. If you dissatisfied with the life you have, it’s because of the beliefs you hold. It became clear to me that if I wanted to change my life I had to start with my beliefs. This has turned out to be easier said than done.

If I really wanted to change these beliefs, I had to find out where they have been hiding. As I started to research this, I’ve come to find that there is a lot of differing opinions about our Minds and how it works and that this debate has been the subject of Philosophers for ever, and our understanding of what Consciousness is still just now being understood. I’m going to try to summarize what I’ve come up with, and see if this makes any sense to you.

Where are our Beliefs Held?

Most “experts” agree that the mind is basically divided into two parts, This Duelists approach see the mind having an unconscious subjective side and a conscious objective side. Now to complicate this debate physicists have come to believe that the Universe, matter as we know it, is really just energy, each element vibrating at different frequencies, these vibrations are received in the Mind thru neutral receptors and arranged into intelligent formations. These formations are our perceptions and they are stored in the mind. These perceptions are stored in the mind first in the part of the mind concerned with the now( the conscious side) and later moved to (the unconscious side) that is concerned with the past.

The experts theorize that the unconscious part of the mind takes up 87% of available capacity. What’s interesting about this subjective part of the mind is that it’s not interested if a thought is true or false, it’s just there. The conscious side of the mind the objective side being a lot smaller doesn’t have the room to store all this information. so once a thought is perceived in the conscious mind it goes through a process of reticular activation, where the mind works 24/7 looking for examples to either support or deny the validity of the thought. Depending on the input it forms patterns of formation which in turn become habits and beliefs and eventually they are moved to the unconscious to make room for things in the now. Once a habit or belief is moved to the subjective side of the mind it’s no longer concerned if it’s true of false it just is.

How Beliefs are Formed

To give you an example of this process, say your a young child between the age of birth to 8 years old, and your conscious mind sees a situation where complaining works to get what someone wants. Through the process of reticular activation the mind starts looking for patterns to prove and reaffirm what the conscious mind saw. If the child s environment is filled with a lot of complaining this thought pattern (complaining works) becomes a habitual thought and eventually a belief, and gets filed away in the memory of the subjective mind, which is not concerned whether it’s true or not. The child is totally unconscious of this happening. But the habit of complaining about things is now a part of his behavior, because subconsciously he believes it works.

Fundamental and Ancillary Beliefs

We form beliefs about everything, it’s important to recognize that It’s the scope of the belief that’s important Is it a fundamental belief or an ancillary belief? There is a big difference in believing Lima beans are bad (ancillary belief) versus believing vegetables are bad (fundamental belief) It’s possible to have a good life with some dis-empowering beliefs as long as they are ancillary beliefs. It’s even possible to have a good life if some of your dis-empowering beliefs are fundamental as long as they are balanced with some powerful fundamental beliefs

. Another example, there is a big difference in believing a certain man can’t be trusted versus believing people can’t be trusted. This person may attain an overall sense of belonging and even a sort of happiness dealing with others but the chances of this person having a happy life are highly reduced simply because of this one belief. Look at the difference, believing I can’t change versus people don’t change easily, would have on a person. They would have no problem in believing others could change but when it came to them personally they would constantly be presented with situations that would reinforce their belief that they can’t change. When challenged, that they are resistant to change, they will hide behind a mask and lie saying that’s not true, when in reality they subconsciously believe it.

We Can Change

The good news is that we can change, and it starts with awareness. Realizing that it’s the dis-empowering beliefs that are the cause. The neutral universe will only grow what is planted no more no less. Think back to a time when you only had a phone in your house and if you weren’t home you missed the call. Remember when the first message machines came out and we could review the call we had missed. And now think what you would do if you left your cell phone at home.

The Mind of God

The
mind of God, which is in us all, takes the beliefs we hold and
manifest’s them into our lives., Medicine can’t explain it but
spiritualists down through the ages have spoken about it, written about
it and have believed in it. You can choose to believe it or not it’s
your choice. Long term personal growth must include the encouragement to
think for ourselves, challenge long held beliefs that haven’t served us
and establish new beliefs. I believe we are our own Higher Power, the
kingdom of heaven lies within us. Jesus, Buddha, Mohammad and Allah they
all lie within us. They are all actually aspects of us. We have it in
ourselves to create the world of our dreams. Fear (ego) is terrified
that we might learn this and continues to tell us that our nature is
sinful. By keeping us focused on the outside we never connect with our
inside, our Higher Self.

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why Baby Boomers are not retiring

Lived a Mediocre Life

There are any number of reasons, that Baby Boomers are not retiring when they could, and it doesn’t have anything to do with fear of out living our money. It’s a fear that you might die with your dream still inside you. Ever have that feeling that you lived a mediocre life? A life that just moved along with you in it. Think back and you probably had no idea that you would spend a large part of your life, doing what you did.

Found your Career by Luck

I read somewhere, that 75% of men, find, what turns out to be their career job, simply by luck. Being in the right or wrong place at the right or wrong time. No planning, no thought out career search, just plan old luck. And in most cases because it was easy and paid decen(or at least what you’d accept), you ended up staying there for 10,20 and maybe 30 years. The years just kinda moved along taking you with them.

Resist Change

We are all creatures of habit, and we all resist change. In a lot of cases change is either forced on us or the pain of not changing gets so bad that we have to change. But we don’t really like it. What’s behind it, fear, of the unknown, but basically it’s fear of ourselves. That we won’t make the right decision or trusting any decision we might make. And where did this fear come from? It came from your parents, who quite by accident planted the ideas in your mind, that your not lucky, and that it’s who you know, not what you know, to accept the status quo, don’t rock the boat, be happy with what you got, and the most devastating one, your not smart enough. These ideas, as innocent as they were, when first broached,over time, have become beliefs. Beliefs that you might not even be aware that you carry, until now.

What About the Dream

So now your retired, from that mediocre career, and the thought crosses your mind what now? And the longer you sit around doing nothing, the stronger the feeling gets, that there has to be more to life them this. But you can’t figure out what you want to do next. If your in that position you might want to take a look at your beliefs. You know those nice warm beliefs, youv’e been holding forever. Their like old friends you wouldn’t think of giving up. Well lets review some of these old friends and see if they are really serving us.

Belief; Nobody cares what I think or would be Interested.

I firmly believe that everyone has a best-selling book, hidden inside them. The idea that nobody would be interested in your story is a dis-empowering belief, that only you are holding. We watch TV everyday filled with stories that people, just like us, have made up, and half the time we think it’s crap. We watch the talking heads and wonder to ourselves or out loud, how in the world did that person get on TV ? Well the reason we are watching, them is that they believed they could do it.

Experts say that creativity is contained within the dark side of our personalities. Use the fear and judgment to fuel your creativity. Let your fears bring out the story your’e always wanted to tell. Allow yourself to be vulnerable, it’s what people want. Aren’t you tired of the same old sequel or a rehash of the same old theme over and over? Today more them ever before book publishers are looking for original content. They are so desperate, that they will even publish a book for free. The means of achieving this are becoming more accessible by the day.

Belief; I Don’t know how

The qualities that people are looking for today are stories that are authentic, unique and real with honesty and vulnerability. If they also include a desire to help or inform, them you have a winning combination. People are fed up with being marketed to by hip slick Madison avenue ad agencies that push out the same rehashed shit year after year.

Today, individuals have the ability of getting information in front of millions of people. This personal mass media power was only available to corporations and the well-connected just a decade ago. Now we all carry access to millions in our pants pocket or purse. The cell phone with its access to the internet gives you mass media power unthought of 10 years ago. It fills me with wonder and jealousy, what the next 10 or 20 years will bring.

Belief; I’m not Smart Enough

Knowledge has never been more accessible. With access to the internet you can literally tap into resources unimaginable even 10 years ago. You have the time, your retired right. Find that niche, something your passionate about and start telling the world about it, just like you’d tell a friend. The funny thing about becoming a best-selling author is that the more obscure the topic, the easier it is to become a best-seller. Becoming a best-seller, immediately gives you credibility in your niche, and with credibility comes traffic.

Belief; It sounds like a lot of Work

Finding a niche your passionate about, takes the word work out of the equation, and replaces it with play. Alan Watts said that the goal of every man should be to find a way to get paid to play. To immerse yourself in a passion, to look forward to bringing it into reality step by step, to imagine and them create, is truly what we were meant to do.

Conclusion

If this sounds simple it is, I write in a simple style, because I’m not a professional writer. I’m a Boomer just like you, that believes that the universe was designed to grow man. It can’t help but grow whatever you plant, just like fertile soil, if you plant a seed it grows it, it doesn’t have a choice. We were given the choice to decide what we plant. Philosophers throughout history all say the same thing, “as man believes so shall he be”.

Evaluate some beliefs you’re holding, beliefs that were handed down to you by your parents, they did the best they could with the tools they had. If you believe that you’re deserving of only a little happiness and a little prosperity, them that’s what the universe will provide. It’s a simple matter of cause and effect. Your beliefs (thoughts) are the cause and your life is the effect.

Scarcity and limitation was not our creators intent for us. God’s will was always that man be happy and prosper. If your not happy and dreading the next 10 or 20 years, then you have allowed some dis-empowering thoughts to creep into your mind. It’s not important, how they got there, what is important is being aware they are there. Use them as fuel to power you into self actualization, as Maslow said “once you think you can, you must.

I’m developing this Website specifically for Boomers like me, to discuss and analyze any number of the dis-empowering beliefs that we have latched on to, and to pull them out by there roots.

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

 

 

 

 

Forgive College Loans

When Education became Big Business

In the 60s a belief started to form that a blue collar job was bad and if you wanted to get ahead in society you had to have a white collar job, and you needed a college degree, in order to get it. As this belief started to spread you started to see more and more high schools eliminating there technical training classes and replacing them with college prep classes.

Slowly the perception started that tech classes where for the slow minded and kids started to look down at classes like auto tech or woodworking tech. As interest in these classes diminished, they slowly started to disappear in high schools across the country. Denying millions of kids, who would have been more than happy,learning the basics of a trade, out in the cold

Big Finance saw an Opportunity

With the changes in 65 by the Johnson Administration, Student Loans became Federally backed and made available to everybody, no matter what the families income. This played right into the hands of Big finance, who took advantage of this dis-empowering belief, and with there unlimited advertising muscle, and the control of Congress have been able to turn millions into Debt Slaves.

Why has the Cost of College Skyrocketed

Colleges and Universities have been and still are prime supporters of this dis-empowering belief for obvious reasons, the business of Education has become big business, as the tremendous rise in Tuition will attest. The rapid rise in tuition is directly linked to the easy access to loan monies, they have been co-conspiritors with big Finance and have been more than happy to see families and young people go into great debt, without remorse.

They are lying to us

It can no longer be said, if it ever was,that Colleges and Universities teach the critical thinking skills that people need to get ahead in society. These skills are inherent in everyone and only need enlightened guidance and good practices to bring them out. These same colleges and Universities are guilty of false advertising and have not fulfilled there obligations, they have become bastions of elitists, that talk diversity through the sides of there mouths. They stifle free speech and can not tolerate anyone that doesn’t hold there exalted views of themselves.

Student Loan defaults at all time high

Even now Student Loan defaults are at an all time high and rising. Isn’t it interesting also that it’s one obligation that can’t be dismissed through bankruptcy. The Government should do something for the millions who have fallen into arrears and do something about the inflated cost of higher education period. A market adjustment need to happen. We saw it with the Stock Market, Banks and Real Estate. Something needs to be done for the millions of families who suffer under the hardship of loans they will never be able to repay.

Big Business calls the shots

Why is Government always willing to bail out big Finance and do nothing for the average citizen? Our whole foreign Policy is based on what’s good for big Business. We spend Trillions in the Middle East while ignoring our own infrastructure and our own citizens. To many politicians are looking to capitalize on there relations with big business.

Education for the benefit of educators not students

And nothing will change until people start getting mad enough and demand that Higher Education in America is not for the advancement of the students, it’s for the advancement of Education, for the school administrators and the faculty. And especially for the benefit of big Finance, that sit’s there rubbing there hands like the proverbial “Fagan” in Dickens, asking how much do they owe us now.

Conclusion

I’ve asked a lot of people why they think the cost of a College education has gotten so expensive, and most people don’t have the foggiest idea. It’s because of the liberal access to loans that you can’t get out, of even by declaring bankruptcy. Anyone looking at College Campuses today can plainly see that the last thing they are interested in is the students. They are only interested in there own self-interest. Big Education is Big Business and something has to change.

We must realize that a College Diploma does not guarantee success today or in the future. It’s only important to Big Finance, and is a dis-empowering belief that’s being pushed by Big Finance and Big Education. An empowering belief is that there are other avenues available, and it’s not worth turning you and your family into Debt Slaves for life.

Big Education is quickly pricing themselves into irrelevancy and I’m happy to bring it to your attention

As always thanks for visiting, Dave

 

 

 

 

 

 

Is Yoga Good for Baby Boomers?

If you’ve ever wondered if starting Yoga in your late 50s is a good idea, let me tell you about my experience. I decided to start doing Yoga seriously at 59 years old. My main motivation was to improve my flexibility for my golf game. I started taking classes at the local Gym that I belonged to. While the instructors were usually very nice, I noticed right away that the classes were full for the good ones and empty for the others, not so good.

I admit to being intimidated at first, not knowing the difference between an up dog and a down dog, but from my position in the back of the class I slowly started gaining confidence. One of the disadvantages of doing Yoga in a Gym environment is that the most gyms have one maybe two Yoga sessions a day. Luckily I was able to establish a routine of three days a week.

After three months of classes I noticed a few things. My flexibility had improved as shown in my golf game, but I was surprised that my balance and coordination also showed marked improvement. I also seemed to be handling my stress levels a little better, and I even found myself kinda meditating as I tried to control my breathing while doing my Yoga routine.

I’ve since learned that Yoga especially for Baby Boomers is not only safer but out performs Aerobic exercises, at improving flexibility and balance but also improving core strength and reducing joint pain. Yoga has been pretty mainstream in Gyms for the last ten years and even longer in certain parts of the country. But the problem with Gyms is that the classes are limited and the instruction can vary greatly. But it is inexpensive. Private Yoga studios offer greater flexibility and quality instruction making it easier to establish a routine, but the facilities can vary greatly with regard to changing rooms showers and spa facilities. And they can be expensive.

If your looking to start doing Yoga today I would really suggest you look at joining an On-line Yoga Program. Yogadownload.com is the company I’d recommend, and here’s why.

Who are they

Name: Yogadownload

Website: Yogadownload.com

Price: Competitive

Owner: Jamie Kent

Overall Rank: 9.6 out of 10.0

Product Overview

On-line training programs is one of the fastest growing segments in the fitness industry. Fitness apps. Are growing 87% faster than other industries, with more than 1/2 of all smart phone users have a fitness app on their phone. On-line programs offer members the ability to log on anytime from anywhere. The programs are taught by some worlds the best instructors, at a fraction of the cost of a studio. Not only can you do a routine at your convince but you can fine tune to exactly the type of yoga you want and the skill level your at. Many other features are available including the fact that you belong to a social community of like-minded people that are very engaged in what your doing.

The Pros

  • World Class instructors
  • Unsurpassed quality and selection of classes to choose from
  • Free video downloads for off-line use
  • Affordability: $1.00 2 week intro, $12.00/month basic $18.00/month premium $120/yr premium
  • Experience: 10 years on-line, 220,000 members, 56 countries
  • Yoga anywhere on any mobile device

The Cons

  • Need to be self-motivated
  • Exercise usually at home alone
  • Nobody to check your form or posture

Who’s it for

90% of people come to Yoga for flexibility, stress relief, general health and physical fitness. But for Baby Boomers specifically, along with these obvious benefits,it can help problems like chronic pain, fatigue,obesity,asthma, but even more important Yoga offers a chance at self-reflection, to practice self-kindness and self-compassion and continued growth and self-awareness.

If your a Baby Boomer and you feel it’s too late to start, that your not “flexible enough” you need to realize that Yoga is’not about attaining the perfect pose, it’s not about being “good enough” or “right”, Yoga is about removing any judgment and letting you be present to who you are now.

Verdict

Yogadowload.com is a proven performer in the industry. Verywellfit.com ranked the #4 in the industry, after visiting the sites of the competitors, I found Yogadownload.com to be of a higher quality, more professional site. They are highly interactive with their members offering a wide variety of programs and products designed to improve the quality of life now.

Lastly is the business opportunity that Yogadownload.com offers through their Affiliate program, if your an active blogger and want to help pass the word you might look at becoming an Affiliate. Hit the link to check them out
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As always thanks for visiting, Dave

 

 

 

A Newbies Review of the Shareasale Network

Being new to the on-line affiliate marketing business, I wanted to give you my insight of what I found when researching and joining my first Affiliate Network. Remember that an Affiliate Network is not the same as an Affiliate Platform. A Network is a group of Merchants that carry an assortment of products. An Affiliate Platform provides you Website Hosting and related tools you need to promote the products you select.

Who’s being Reviewed

Name: Shareasale

Website: Shareasale.com

Price: Free to become a member

Owners: Awin

Overall Rank: 4.5 out of 5.0

Product Overview

Shareasale is one of the largest Affiliate Marketing Networks currently running. It competes with giants like CJ Affiliates and Clickbank and more than holds its own. They have been in business for 17 years, and have worked hard at becoming one of the top Networks in the business. In doing my due diligence about this company I found their reviews to be very positive. They all stressed how honest and fair they are. They all commended their excellent customer service, efficient tools and accurate reporting.

My personnel experience (limited as it may be), is that their sign up procedures are very simple and direct. They send a welcome aboard e-mail immediately, and tell you how long it will take until you approved. In my case being a brand new Affiliate Publisher, it took two days, at which time I was giving very easy to follow instructions on how to get started.

In 2017 Shareasale was acquired by the Awin Network (an international Affiliate Network) which gives them even more credibility in the business. At this time the two companies continue to run separately, but bodes well down the road, if they ever decide to merge.

The Pros

  • Reputable Company: Being in business for 17 years means you doing something right. Excellent reviews and reputation both on and off-line. Their accusation by Awin further enhances the companies standing in the industry.
  • Free and Easy to Join: As mentioned I found their sign up procedure to be much easier than a couple of their competitors. They were easy to follow and straight forward, especially when you brand new to the biz. They send you a welcome aboard e-mail and follow up with you approval or denial within days. Once, approved they provide simple step by step instructions on how to begin.
  • They allow multiple websites: You don’t have to separately sign up each website, just list all you website, once approved they all become active.
  • Number and Variety of Merchants: Shareasale has over 40 categories to choose from. This ensures that whatever you want to promote will most likely be available within their network. They currently have over 4800 merchants and are increasing that number almost daily

The Cons

  • They don’t use PayPal for pay outs. From what I’ve been seeing a lot of the big Networks don’t currently use PayPal, for whatever reason. Luckily I’ll accept a check mailed to my home.
  • High Payout Threshold: Currently its $50.00 before they send a payout, this is a turn off for new Affiliates, who are just getting started.
  • Threat of Fees and Account Deletion: In doing my research I came across this, that Shareasale might impose a fee of $25.00 if you account stays under $50.00 for an extended period , I’ve also read that they may delete you account if there is no activity after 90 days. This could be problematic to new Affiliates.
  • Separate Merchant Sign up: I was surprised after being approved by Shareasale that I still had to get separate approval from the Merchants that I wanted to promote. I originally applied to five different merchants and was accepted by three.

Who’s the Product For?

I think all Affiliate Publishers should include Shareasale within their portfolios. With over 4800 merchants to choose from the chances are excellent that you’ll find products you’ll be happy to promote. They offered one of the most balanced product mix that I saw.

Tools and Training

As with all the Networks I looked at they have a wealth of tools and training materials that you can access, it actually is almost overwhelming. No matter what you skill level maybe you can find the training right for. Although I didn’t go to deep into this area, I was not hit with a lot of up sells coming out of the gate as I was with a couple of Shareasale’s competitors.

Verdict

I feel that Shareasale offers a great Network to the new Affiliate just breaking into the business. The wide variety of Merchants almost insures that you’ll find something you’ll be proud to promote. They have an easy to navigate platform and at least initially seem to be more interested in helping you get started as opposed to up selling you additional products. Their training resources are extensive and they encourage you to join their on-line community. I would rank them a must have network, as part of you portfolio 4.5 out of 5.0

Learn how to build your own Website and get paid to be an Affiliate Marketer. Click the link below, it’s free.

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As always thanks for visiting, Dave

 

 

 

 

 

Are Baby Boomers Using Spas?

It starts with relaxing, in a room heated by a continuous flow of hot air, allowing the bather to perspire freely. Follow this up with a shower, and ten minutes in a whirl pool, massaging your joints and muscles under the jets of hot water. Sounds pretty good huh? then why aren’t more Baby Boomers doing it?

Saunas

The first Turkish Baths opened in the United States in 1861. While popularity of the traditional Turkish Bath has declined over the last 150 years, hot-air baths still thrive in the form of the Russian Steam bath and the Finnish Sauna.

The first mention of a Russian Steam Bath or Banya can be found in the Radzivill Chronicles dated 945 AD. Ancient Romans had a Cult of Bathhouse, where they not only washed themselves, but socialized, painted, read poetry, sang and feasted. Their Bathhouses even had special rooms for Massage, Gym and Libraries. Wealthy citizens often went to the Bathhouses twice a day.

The Finnish Sauna’s earliest roots are difficult to trace, but its earliest versions are believed to be from 700 BC. Today Finland has over 5 million inhabitants and over 3 million Saunas. Finns think of the Sauna not as a luxury, but as a necessity.

Health Benefits of Saunas

  • Reduce the risk of Heart Disease; studies have shown that taking a Sauna 2 to 3 times a week, can reduce the chances of Heart related death by 27%. And 50% if you take them 5 to 7 times a week.
  • Greater Longevity; A 20-year study noted a 40% reduction in premature death, for those who enjoyed a Sauna daily.
  • Rids the Body of Toxins; Perspiration cools the body down and rids the body of harmful waste products. Environmental pollutants, man made chemicals, heavy metals, solvents, pesticides, prescription drugs, nicotine and alcohol. The average person expels roughly a quart of sweat daily via the Ecerine Glands. A sauna triggers the gland to secrete a quart in 15 minutes.
  • Simulates the effects of exercise; heat stress, simulates intense physical activity. Sweating in a sauna after exercise soothes and relaxes muscles, expands and opens blood vessels that optimize blood vessel function.
  • Improves Heart Health; Saunas are both safe for healthy adults and those suffering from cardiovascular issues like angina pectoris, heart failure, and myocardial infraction, always check with your Dr. for guidance.
  • Lowers Blood Pressure; In addition to regulating blood pressure, sauna therapy is considered safer then prescription medication for the treatment of anxiety disorders, seasonal effective disorder (SAD), joint pain and the soothing of muscle spasms.

Boomers should start Using Saunas

The other day as I was sitting in the Sauna observing my body sweat and contemplating. It dawned on me how much I look forward to my Sauna after my workout, its become like a reward for completing another routine. In the thirty plus years that I’ve been doing these little routines its never ceased to amaze me how few people actually take advantage of the Spa facilities available in all the Gyms across the country. This is especially true about Baby Boomers.

It’s Free

What’s really gotten me thinking about, is that since turning 65, MediCare will actually pay for my Gym membership. In the thirty plus years I’ve paid an average of 35 to 45 a month to belong to a Gym. I now pay nothing and can use Gyms all across the country for free. I was taking a Sauna while traveling through California recently (I live in Las Vegas), and as usual I was sitting there alone, and the thought struck me, do Boomers just not care or do they just not know that this is available to them.

I, can understand the reluctance about starting an exercise program, but who would be reluctant about starting a spa program, especially when its FREE and so good for your health. Have Baby Boomers become that complacent or desperate, that they would rather sit in front of a TV or in the case of Vegas in front of a slot machine, for hours day after day, week after week. Has that become our idea of retirement?

Attitude Adjustment

Having the attitude that our parents had and society still has about growing old is wrong. Instead of being the worst of times it should be the best of times. It affords all of us, the chance to finally live the Dream, you’ve been holding all these years.

Holding onto dis-empowering beliefs that we’ve gotten from our parents, and continue to get, from the mass media outlets, about what growing old is all about, is wrong. Mass Media looks upon our Generation with an attitude of disdain and dismissiveness. All they see is a generation of diminishing returns. I’m sick of the condescending attitudes and tired of being made to feel like a second class citizen simply because I’m in my 60s. With the advancements in health care 60 is quickly becoming the new 50 and soon 70 will be the new 60.

Get with the Program

This website is a Manifestation of a Dream I have. It’s important to write and speak from my own position of purpose, knowing within that I am on a mission.I am simply doing what I know to be the right thing for me, while always

considering improving the lives of others. If my work helps you and others, I am thrilled. If not, I am still thrilled at being able to produce it. I am not focused on the outcome of my efforts. Results are not what motivate me. Changing the way Baby Boomers think about the future is what motivates me. Continue to visit this site where we will be discussing, how holding on to the same dis-empowering beliefs, will continue to give you the same dis-empowered life. You’ve heard the saying about insanity, “doing the same thing expecting a different result” well its time we start to challenge some paradigms that we got from our parents,  who got it from theirs, and create new ones, as we look forward to the next twenty years.

As always, thanks for visiting, Dave

 

 

 

 

 

 

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