The Three Stages of Learning
- Unconsciously Incompetent; Don’t know what we don’t know
- Consciously Incompetent; Know we don’t know
- Unconsciously Competent; Know we know
These three stages coincide perfectly with three stages of Addiction
- Active Addiction; To be in your Addiction, where you don’t know, what you don’t know. Oblivious of what’s happening, totally convinced that everyone drinks the way you drink.
- In-Recovery; Know we don’t know, Only once the pain becomes greater than the pleasure do we even consider the possibility of quitting. We understand the concept of powerlessness over our drug of choice, but struggle with the idea of our lives being unmanageable, especially if we still have a job, a wife and a house. We know something is wrong but don’t know how to fix it.
- Recovered; Know we know, we understand the reasons behind the Addition and the compulsion to use has been lifted.
In AA circles it’s frowned upon to say your recovered, when introducing yourself, as if it’s presumptuous to think you can ever recover. They assume everybody is stuck in the consciously incompetent stage of learning and that to know you know, why you became an addict is out of reach. This is very dis-empowering.
A Journey with No Destination
To begin a journey of recovery with no destination, no possibility of reaching the end, is to be left constantly searching. Your criticized if you act as if your tiring, or complain about the journey with no end. After a while you begin to wonder if this is a journey you want to take.
It’s natural and Human to think that a destination is not only possible but probable. A journey with not destination makes no sense. While you may enjoy the journey it’s in reaching your destination, that is cause for celebration You rejoice in reaching your goal and look forward to the next journey.
Recovery should feel like a journey of enlightenment, a joyful adventure, taking with others, that reaches it’s desired goal. Not a lifelong “trudge” to a nebulous and vague happy destiny.
It’s an Insult
I believe we are designed to be able to reach the third level of learning. To know we know, the reasons behind our addictions. That our Minds designed in the likeness of our creator has the power to find the answer to any riddle. To not believe this is to hold a dis-empowering belief about the capabilities God gave us. And an insult to the one that made us.
Solving the Riddle
Man is slowly solving the Riddles of the Universe. Great thinkers and Philosophers through the ages keep repeating one constant theme, and that is, Mans ability to Manifest in the Universe anything he desires, as long as he truly believes. In order for this to happen he first has to believe he is deserving. So many of us fail to manifest a life we have dream t about because we believe what somebody told us, instead of what history has shown us. Either intentionally or unintentionally we are told that we are either not good enough, or smart enough or deserving enough, to manifest our dreams. Because we believed these people and trusted them, and saw it in their lives, we came to believe it. How can anyone designed in the Image of our creator be undeserving?
In addition to believing that we are deserving, we also must believe that the Universe will provide. We must believe in an abundant Universe, designed for one purpose, to grow man. The Universe just like a fertile field has no choice in what it will or will not grow. The Universe knows nothing about scarcity, it provides in abundance whatever we plant. So even a person who believes they are deserving but plants only negativity and disharmony, will reap it in abundance. It’s the Law of Nature, you reap what you sow.
And finally we need and understanding of our Free Will and the Will of God. We have the freedom to believe whatever we choose to believe. We were not designed to be robots. To believe anything that dis-empowers man is not the correct use of our will. As far as God’s Will for Man, if he designed us in his image, and placed us in a Universe perfectly designed to Grow man, then it only follows that his Will for us is to be happy and prosper. God only sees good, if bad exists it because good, didn’t believe it was good.
It Comes Down To Your Beliefs
It all comes down to our beliefs. The more we focus on the dis-empowering aspects of how we got them, or who’s responsible the more strength we give them. What’s important is the realization that those beliefs are there and that they are not serving us. We must Learn what our true beliefs are. We must know we know that our beliefs are based on empowering principals, and once we know that, we are ready to embark on a new journey.
It’s dis-empowering to believe that we can never know. Life is a journey and to be considered a journey must have a destination, without one it’s only a wandering. Nobody ever said “enjoy wandering”. With beliefs firmly established in empowering principals we begin to realize, that everything that has happened on our journey we call life, needed to happen in order for us to get here. What do you want for your next destination?
As always, thanks for visiting. Dave