Trust Faith and Alcoholism

Trust Faith and Alcoholism

Who Do You Trust

Who would you trust, someone who has studied painting for thirty years, or          someone who has painted for thirty years? Someone who has studied digging ditches, or someone who has dug ditches? Someone who has studied alcoholism for thirty years, or someone who has been an alcoholic for thirty years? Someone  who has studied recovery, or someone who has recovered?

 Levels of Belief

There are people out there, who believe something because they have studied  it,  then there are people, who believe something because they know it. While  belief is good, there are levels of belief. The belief gained through experience will  always trump the belief gained through education. You can trust the belief gained by education. You can have faith in the belief gained by experience.

 Which is stronger trust or faith?

If you have lived with dis-empowering beliefs for thirty years, you can have faith, that you know for fact, they are dis-empowering. As opposed to the person that has studied dis-empowering beliefs for thirty years, he may trust he knows, but he doesn’t have faith he knows. The arrogance of people with education, and a lot of letters following their names, never ceases to astound me.

Beware Experts

The EGO of these people is only surpassed, by how wrong they have been, about so many things. We will laugh when we look back fifty years from now, about what some of the experts believed was true. History has shown us this, over and over. Yet these experts, never stop pontificating, about something they trust to be true, simply because they have studied the problem, only to be proven wrong, by someone who has lived the problem.

Disinformation is Dangerous

I recently came across a blog written by a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, who holds a PHD and is supposedly a recovered Alcoholic. To give you an example on how much disinformation is out there about Alcoholism, I’d like to comment on some of the assertions  this “expert” made in her blog.

Claims Alcohol is Addictive

  • Claims that Alcohol is scientifically known to be addictive.

If you type this question in to a search bar the first sites that come up are treatment center paid Ads. Dig a little deeper and at WebMD.com they talk about how Alcohol causes the brain to release feel good opioids known as endorphins and that “heavy drinkers released more endorphins in response to alcohol, and they reported feeling more intoxicated then the lighter drinker after drinking the same amount of alcohol.”

It’s hard to find any site willing to say alcohol is addictive. I say after prolonged abuse of alcohol the brain eventually develops cravings for the endorphins released when they drink. As far as a heavy drinker feeling more intoxicated then a light drinker after drinking the same amount of alcohol is categorically false. Heavy drinkers develop a tolerance to alcohol and usually have a high tolerance to it’s effects until very late in the diseases progression.

Three Months Sober

  • She is writing this blog after being sober three months, and never considered herself Alcoholic because the term places the problem with the person and not within the nature of the drug. She claims that thinking she was the problem is what kept her “hooked” on alcohol.

My experience has been that for most people trying to recover, it takes 3 to 6 months for the static in the brain to quiet enough to even begin to think straight. Not considering yourself responsible for your addiction is very dangerous. And it’s totally wrong to blame the alcohol for your addiction. This is victimization at it’s most obvious.

Two Drinks a Day

  • 37 year old female PHD claimed she was alcoholic because she needed to use the substance. 2 drinks on week nites, more on weekends. This was hurting her her life, sleep, health, energy, creativity, clarity, and her connection with herself and others. She wanted to stop but found it nearly impossible to do so.

While I’m the first to acknowledge that you don’t have to ride the elevator all the way down to the basement before finding recovery. I find it ludicrous that this person can even call herself alcoholic. Having been in and around AA for thirty years, and having met 100’s of Alcoholics, all the stories are similar. The progression takes years, it starts out being nothing but fun and pleasure, then slowly becomes pleasure mixed with some pain, and finally it’s nothing but pain. It’s unfortunate but AA is usually the last house on the block, and it’s either find recovery or end up in the hospital, Jail or dead.

Considers Recovering Alcoholic a Deficient Term

  • She states she didn’t like the deficient term of recovering alcoholic. While she tried AA it wasn’t for her, because she didn’t want to organize her life around the fact that she “use to be addicted” (remember she has three month sober). She wanted to leave the endless drinking chapter behind and move forward.

A licensed mental health councilor with an inability to even do the basic group therapy of AA or find a sponsor, strikes me as odd. Obviously the ego is still very much in play and she probably finds herself condemning as opposed to comparing. Typical stinking thinking.

Her Therapist Invalidated Her Concerns

  • This PHD with an LMHC says she just stopped cold turkey. She saw the “dark deceptive forest for the trees, and walked the hell away from there”. But not before doing a lot of reading and  starting a journal and writing a shame riddled anonymous blog. She tried sober chat rooms and followed “sober bloggers”. She even shared her concerns with “trusted” people and her therapist, who only invalidated her concerns.

Stopping cold turkey might result in your life getting better on a material level, but you don’t get better mentally or spiritual level. Having been a white knuckle drunk for ten years I can speak from experience that it’s one of the biggest regrets I have. Because of not doing the mental or spiritual work necessary for true recovery, I eventually convinced myself that it had all been a mistake and I probably wasn’t even alcoholic. It took blowing up my life a second time to convince me otherwise.

Searching For the Source of the Problem

  • She searched high and low for the source of the problem. Because being a therapist herself she knows how important it is to ask the right questions. She tried AA again, “kind souls but not for me”. She even made a list on how everything bad that had happened to her was somehow her responsibility. She begged a God she didn’t believe in to help her.

There is no elevator to recovery, everyone has to use the Steps. While she insinuates here that she may have attempted the steps it’s obvious that she didn’t get past Step 4. But it’s in Steps 6 and 7 that we look at our character defects, (our dis-empowering beliefs) and ask for them to be removed. It’s Steps 8 and 9 that we make amends for the wrongs we have done to others. And Steps 10,11,and 12 where we put what we’ve learned into action.

Blames Alcohol

  • She goes on to state that it was the self-blame model that she had to reject. She had to completely reject the notion that alcohol addiction was her fault. She blames alcohol and the industry for her addiction. She thinks that people in recovery are sad they are different.

We learn denial, the ability to distract ourselves and shut down what we need and want. We deny what we observe or know to be true with others. We create fantasies of how we wish things could be, at the same time making excuses, to do nothing that would change the situation. The more we deny the less we heal, the more we lie to ourselves, the further we get from our true selves. Honesty becomes our biggest challenge.

Conclusion

While it’s natural for us to want to trust educated professionals.When it comes to the Disease of Alcoholism, being educated is often not enough, sometimes it can even be dangerous. Faith in a Higher Power and in someone who has actually recovered, is what is needed.Nothing can replace experience.

I continue to assert, that AA recovery rates would be much higher, if they would incorporate modern scientific advancements into their program. In the last 100 years we have seen advances in our understanding of Mental Illness. We have seen the Science of Psychology evolve in it’s understanding of the power of the unconscious. Incorporating these advances would improve AA’s methods of recovery, which they have allowed to become dated and thus unscientific.

The only way to break the “bonds of Self” is to examine the dis-empowering beliefs, we have formed about ourselves and the world. AA’s insistence that it’s through good action that good thinking emerges. runs counter to what both Ancient Philosophers and Modern Scientists have theorized. That’s it our Beliefs (Cause) that creates the life we experience (Effect).

As always, thanks for visiting. Dave

 

 

 

 

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