Lived a Mediocre Life
There is a number of reasons, that Baby Boomers are not retiring when they could, and it doesn’t have anything to do with fear of outliving our money. It’s a fear that you might die with your dream still inside you. Ever have that feeling that you have lived a mediocre life? A life that just moved along with you in it. Think back and you probably had no idea that you would spend a large part of your life, doing what you did.
Found your Career by Luck
I read somewhere, that 75% of men find, what turns out to be their career job, simply by luck. Being in the right or wrong place at the right or wrong time. No planning, no thought out career search, just plain old luck. And in most cases, because it was easy and paid decent (or at least what you’d accept), you ended up staying there for 10,20, and maybe 30 years. The years just kinda moved along taking you with them.
We are all creatures of habit, and we all resist change. In a lot of cases change is either forced on us or the pain of not changing gets so bad that we have to change. But we don’t really like it. What’s behind it, fear, of the unknown, but basically it’s fear of ourselves, that we won’t make the right decision or trusting any decision we might make. And where did this fear come from? It came from our parents, who quite by accident planted these ideas in our minds, that we are not lucky, and that it’s who you know, not what you know, to accept the status quo, don’t rock the boat, be happy with what you got, and the most devastating one, your not smart enough. These ideas, as innocent as they were, when first broached, over time, have become beliefs. Beliefs that you might not even be aware that you carry, until now.
What About the Dream
So now you retire, from that mediocre career, and the thought crosses your mind what now? And the longer you sit around doing nothing, the stronger the feeling gets, that there has to be more to life than this. But you can’t figure out what you want to do next. If your in that position you might want to take a look at your beliefs. You know those nice warm beliefs, you’ve been holding forever. Their like old friends you wouldn’t think of giving up. Well, let’s review some of these old friends and see if they are really serving us.
Belief; Nobody cares what I think or would be interested in.
I firmly believe that everyone has a best-selling book, hidden inside them. The idea that nobody would be interested in your story is a dis-empowering belief, that only you are holding. We watch TV every day filled with stories that people, just like us, have made up, and half the time we think it’s crap. We watch the talking heads and wonder to ourselves or out loud, how in the world did that person get on TV? Well, the reason we are watching, them is that they believed they could do it.
Experts say that creativity is contained within the dark side of our personalities. Use the fear and judgment to fuel your creativity. Let your fears bring out the story you’re always wanted to tell. Allow yourself to be vulnerable, it’s what people want. Aren’t you tired of the same old sequel or a rehash of the same old theme over and over? Today more than ever before, book publishers are looking for original content. They are so desperate, that they will even publish a book for free. The means of achieving this are becoming more accessible by the day.
Belief; I Don’t know-how
The qualities that people are looking for today are stories that are authentic, unique, and real with honesty and vulnerability. If they also include a desire to help or inform, you have a winning combination. People are fed up with being marketed to by hip slick Madison avenue ad agencies that push out the same rehashed shit year after year.
Today, individuals have the ability to get information in front of millions of people. This personal mass media power was only available to corporations and the well-connected just a decade ago. Now we all carry access to millions in our pants pockets or purse. The cell phone with its access to the internet gives you mass media power unthought-of 10 years ago. It fills me with wonder and jealousy, what the next 10 or 20 years will bring.
Belief; I’m Not Smart Enough
Knowledge has never been more accessible. With access to the internet, you can literally tap into resources unimaginable even 10 years ago. You have the time, you retired right. Find that niche, something your passionate about, and start telling the world about it, just like you’d tell a friend. The funny thing about becoming a best-selling author is that the more obscure the topic, the easier it is to become a best-seller. Becoming a best-seller immediately gives you credibility in your niche, and with credibility comes traffic.
Belief; It sounds like a lot of Work
Finding a niche your passionate about takes the word work out of the equation, and replaces it with play. Alan Watts said that the goal of every man should be to find a way to get paid to play. To immerse yourself in a passion, to look forward to bringing it into reality step by step, to imagine and then create, is truly what we were meant to do.
Simple not Easy
If this sounds simple it is, I write in a simple style because I’m not a professional writer. I’m a Boomer just like you, that believes that the universe was designed to grow man. It can’t help but grow whatever you plant, just like fertile soil, if you plant a seed it grows it, it doesn’t have a choice. We were given the choice to decide what we plant. Philosophers throughout history all say the same thing, “as man believes so shall he be”.
You Get What You Believe
Evaluate some beliefs you’re holding, beliefs that were handed down to you by your parents, they did the best they could with the tools they had. If you believe that you’re deserving of only a little happiness and a little prosperity, then that’s what the universe will provide. It’s a simple matter of cause and effect. Your beliefs (thoughts) are the cause and your life is the effect.
Scarcity and limitation were not our creator’s intent for us. God’s will was always that man be happy and prosper. If you are not happy and dreading the next 10 or 20 years, then you have allowed some dis-empowering thoughts to creep into your mind. It’s not important, how they got there, what is important is being aware they are there. Use them as fuel to power you into self-actualization, as Maslow said “once you think you can, you must.
I’m developing this Website specifically for Boomers like me, to discuss and analyze any number of the dis-empowering beliefs that we have latched on to, and to pull them out by their roots. Becoming aware of the beliefs we hold about ourselves is the first step in designing a life we have only dreamed of.
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As always, thanks for visiting. Dave